Emotional Abuse In Marriage

• Pinching

• Tripping

• Punching

• Grabbing

• Beating

• Pulling hair

• Slapping

• Shoving

• Biting

• Twisting arms

• Kicking

• Using a weapon against you

• Throwing you down

• Choking

• Hitting

• Pushing

6 out of these.... None of the attacks caused lasting pain or left a scar - I didn't need to go to the doctor. They are still attacks.

I am still not comfortable to go into detail - somehow I thought that I would leave at the first sign. Any one of these are bad, on their own. The combination of 6, is my limit, I guess.

 

You know, I guess I really do want to share this. My limit was when I was slapped/punched while carrying my 2 year old and trying to cook his meal.

 

The other thing that I want to say, because it's something that stopped me before, the physical abuse doesn't have the be painful, it's still abuse. Grabbing, pushing, twisting - are all legit physical abuse. It starts small, hardly noticeable, usually to assert control. While nothing put fear in me that I will actually get hospitalized, from the first incident, it has gotten progressively more serious.

 

Calling 911 is harder than it seems. I did threaten to call 911, but instead, I called my father. Had I called the police, I am not sure exactly what would have happened to my son, because in this state, a child witnessing spousal abuse is child abuse. My life was not in danger, so I did not think calling the police would benefit me.