DW's father visiting daily

Wow! He visits when you are not there and still violates your privacy?
But you do need them to care for your child when your DW starts working, huh??
So what happens to THEIR privacy when you leave YOUR most precious "stuff" - i.e your child with them and return to get him/her back as when you are free?

What would have been your reaction if had it been your father instead of her father.

 

What's making you feel insecure abt FIL visit.Old people are very close to kids so may be he wants to be with your kid. It's good that he comes daily.Why can't you see the attention he is paying to you all.If you don't like then ignore them and just be the way you like.Just be patient till your wife gets job thereafter everything will settle down else there will be fights and misunderstandings between u and ur wife.

 

Let's see ... you want your wife to be alone at home and manage a baby by herself, does she get enough time to rest, eat, shower, etc in that case ?
What kind of stuff does FIL leave behind ?
Grandparents' homes are not the same as daycare centers where there may not be much emotional attachment. Since you prefer to eat your cake and have it too, better look for a creche and NOT exploit the sentiments of grandparents when it suits you.

 

1. your wife will rejoin work soon,and your inlaws are going to take care of your child, so it is important that your child get used with your in laws.
2. How do you miss your privacy when you are not at home ??
3. Think about the women who live with inlaws after marriage, don't they have privacy?
4. he cannot keep his "stuff" at your home, but your want your "stuff" to be taken care well.
5. Will you feel the same if this is your father?
6. How can your expect your wife to manage everything alone, since the child is yours too, you too can take off from work and take care of child and home. Thus the PRIVACY is all yours.
7. Why are you so particular that your wife should inform you, she has every right to invite her father home.

 

I did not even want to acknowledge you by replying to this post.But I could not help myself. But boy!you REALLY ARE an MCP (google it if you dont know what it means).
Instead of being happy taht your "D"W is getting help from her father, here you are cribbing about it - and that too when he visits when you are not there? Heights!!!!

 

Flash news!!! Remember why you moved close to them in the first place, if you are so hell bent on privacy.. Why move here.. Why not be a lardlabakdas and have your wife or nanny take care of your offspring... Geez...

 

Over 90% of women in India live in cramped conditions with disrespecting obnoxious families of their husbands and THIS is your problem?

 

hahaha.. i really enjoyed reading all the replies.
i dont see where the OP's privacy is is invaded on his post. but i sensed he is not referring to his privacy but to EGO. he doesnt want any man to come to his home when he is not there. even his FIL.

 

Good reply...