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Ds Picking Up Fowl Language From In-laws

Discussion in 'Miscellaneous in Parenting' started by Kukudukuu, Apr 5, 2018.

  1. Kukudukuu

    Kukudukuu Silver IL'ite

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    Dear ILs
    I'm here again for your valuable feedback and suggestions.
    My ILs were here with us for 2 weeks. When both DH and I were out for work, DS has picked up phrases like I will put you on fire ( ninge benki haktini) I will kill you ( ninge sayastini ) you will die ( Neenu sattogtiya) you are doing a big crime ( Neenu ond Dodd paapa madidiya ) and many more things.. how do I get him diverted to all these ? Tried telling him nicely to giving a pat on the mouth each time he used this language. None worked. Any other way I can try ?
     
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  2. ashneys

    ashneys Platinum IL'ite

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    Oh dear! Does your ILs talk like this or is this from the tv they watched ? How old is he ?
     
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    @Kukudukuu,

    IGNORE! Your ILs were there only for 2 weeks and the dialogues seem to have been picked up from Kannada serials. When he repeated them cutely, they must have found it amusing and your DS got encouraged. By telling him repeatedly or punishing, it gets reinforced. Remember forbidden fruits are sweeter! Simply ignore him when he says those sentences and divert him with something else drastically different and amusing. Once the child realises that he no longer gets appreciation or attention for his dialogue delivery, he will also give up. Even otherwise, children's memories fade faster as newer things take their place. Parvagilla, chintiso vicharavenu illa. sumne ignore maadi. Ella sarihogutte.
     
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  4. Kukudukuu

    Kukudukuu Silver IL'ite

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    My son is 4. They don't talk like this when we are around. These talks happen in a very influential way and kids obviously learn bad things 1st. They don't watch TV I guess.. just that I know their double standards and dh will not accept it easily.
     
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    Thank you for your encouraging words
    Will have to wait and watch how both of us will cope up with it...
     
  6. GeetaKashyap

    GeetaKashyap IL Hall of Fame

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    Even the crudest of ILs will not teach their grandchild such words. Don't worry yourself and stretch the issue dragging in DH; the problem is self-limiting.
     
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    Wah Geeta ! Good advice !
    OP, are you vegetarian ? I suspect this fowl language could only come from the inlaws if they were cooking a chicken and told the poor bird , I will kill you, you will die, I will put you on fire . Maybe your little one missed the subsequent conversations MIL had with the bird. “ I will put masala, you will taste yummy “

    If you are vegetarian, is ekta kapoor producing kannada serials now ??

     
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    Lol.. I'm a vegetarian and Ekta Kapoor is still doing good with hindi serials..
     
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    Op, Although your son is still 4 he is still impressionable.Nip this in the bud.Next time your son says this take his fav toy and tell him you wont give it until he stops talking like this.If this wont work, take away one more toy.If you let it go becoz IL's will be here for short duration,your son will feel its okay to use such language normally.I give one smack to my son if he is naughty. If that doesn't work once more.By then he realizes he has to stop.Good Luck.
     
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  10. GeetaKashyap

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    Lol! Sandy, only you could come up with this unique answer.:tonguecrazy: Yes, Ekta Kapoor's Balaji Tele Films makes serials in Southern languages too!
     
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