Brace for a long post/vent: My FIL passed few years ago. MIL was diagnosed with cancer after that. DH is the youngest and according to tradition "supposed" to take care of his parents. But he chose to live in the US and do not intend to go back. we provide financial and emotional as well as all kinds of support when needed to MIL. DH is pretty cool and satisfied (or so he thinks) about how he handles the situation. We talk to MIL every weekend. She cries over phone on several things and DH doesn't seem to care about it. He says she has been always dramatic like that and exaggerates things all the time. I have a hard time because I want to sympathize with her, but DH says ignore it. Last weekend, our call was on the day she had her visit with oncologist. Her cancer was metastatic at the diagnosis and still is. Treatments were just pills and IV supplements but we think they are working. Doc said the growth has shrunk, she wouldn't believe. She was a nurse and she knows some stuff, but I do not know whom to believe. She has ourrelative lives with her to help with everything and she is scared to live alone if needed. But she cries, i have no one, which is partially true about not having immediate family around. BIL lives in another country and was moving to our place in India permanently, got delayed due to COVID-19 crisis. She cries over his financial situation too and asked us to help him. We haven't discussed about that among us, but I do not want to spent money on people I have never seen - yes that is true. They did not attend our wedding, never visited us or visited parents when we were visiting even if we repeatedly asked them. Heck, they do not even call us. they do not keep any connection , we always take initiative and always let them know about our news - they never contact us unless needed. He didn't even visit when MIL was diagnosed with cancer and when he was absolutely needed at home. He bothers MIL asking for money and land, still MIL takes his side. major reason for BIL's cold shoulder to us is that FIL left house and some land for DH (on condition MIL is taken care of financially) . BIL got the rest of the land (it is the bigger portion of land though). looks like MIL doesn't want to live with them when they move back home, she doesn't say that explicitly, but she doesn't ever ask them any details on the plan but always cries on phone about this to us. MIL is not in good terms with SIL as they had some previous issues. We cannot go back to India or bring her here. We are ready to give the house and our portion of land to BIL if he is ready to take care of MIL. No matter what the situation comes up, BIL won't discuss anything with us, complains to MIL and MIL complains to us. This builds up stress for us and I (and DH) do not know how to handle.