Dowry harassment in USA

Not sure what you are tyring to do? can you fight dowry related and stay in marriage? you have to first walk out and then fight, in US there are no dowry laws, in India you can file, but you need to have proof, some emails, some recorded conversations, its not easy to prove dowry, women are taking advantage of dowry laws in India to great extent to get even in divorce or seperation, courts are careful about what women say . there has to be solid proofs, and moreover when you file for dowry harrassment you should be prepared to walk out of marriage then and there

In US the laws are agains physical abuse and not mental harrassment in domestic violence

 

Try contacting Maitri or Narika.

Maitri- Non-Profit Association helping South Asian Women facing domestic violence, family crisis or conflict

Narika

 

Do you want to stay in this marriage and fight against your husband and ILs for their dowry demands? I am sorry, it is not a good idea, and I wouldn't advice you to go ahead.

If he is abusive (verbal or physical) careless (no responsibility towards his own family and kid) and threatening for divorce, then there is no point in continuing this marriage?

Do not say that you want to work out this marriage for the sake of your kid? No kid will be happy and peaceful if their parents are not responsible and fighting like evils for such dowry matters.

I am sure you can be a good mom to your kid. That's enough and far better than forcing him to live with a irresponsible abusive dad.

Since you have a job in hand, it wouldn't be that difficult for you to walk out and start a home for you. Don't think your DH will follow you and continue to abuse you like in Indian movies if you chose to walk out, because you are in USA now, and I am sure their legal system will protect you from all the abuses.

Find some good friends in your circle, get them help you to find a comfortable house for you.. Look for a decent day care center for your kid if applicable.. When everything is done, pack your bags and move on.

If you still want to file for dowry harrasment case, then collect needful supportive documents (e mails, bank slips, etc...) and try to consult a lawyer before filing your case.

Do not think what your parents and society will think about you. The society will always have something to comment, but your life is very important to you. People in the US wouldn't discriminate you based on your marital status.

You deserve a better peaceful life, and your DH doesn't deserve a wife at all:bonk

 

Dear,
If he is physically or mentally abusing you..you can call the cops.

Otherwise you need to file for divorce.

You can also take "Order of Protection" from courts so he has to stay away from you and you can file divorce.

Please explain more in details so we can answer accordingly.

FL.

 

You seriously need to talk to a lawyer and not go by what ppl tell you on an anonymous online forum.

It doesn't matter how things are handled in India (like Tridev suggested, although, I wish he would check his facts before making sweeping statements).

Anyway, call a lawyer. Many are able to give a free consultation so they can atleast tell you your rights in this country even if they don't handle your case or represent you.

 

So is he really harassing you or are you trying to get back at him for lying about his qualifications?

 

Please... no sentiments when you are abused. Do you think there's marriage here? Why are you becoming a scape goat? The choice is yours, whether you want to live an ethical and a peaceful life or get harrassed.