Ive been married for about 1.2 years now. I absolutely do not like the way MIL and FIL behave with their son. We all live together. He is 32 still they treat him like a child who can't do anything on his own. MIL - MIL shouts at him for small things, like getting up. She will just shout at the top of her voice "GET UPPPPPPP, LOOK WHAT IS THE TIME !!! " , poor husband works in IT and has long hours. If he wants to sleep an extra 15 minutes, why do you have to shout at the top of your voice? Plus is this the way to wake up another person?? Why can't she wake him up calmly. There are many more instances where in she will just SHOUT at him for things like FOOD IS GETTING COLD, COME AND EAT, when he is working on his laptop. Or GO AND TAKE THAT OIL OFF OF YOUR HAIR, ITS BEEN SO LONG. GO. GO. She doesn't talk - she just shouts at the top of her voice for everything!! That too to her son, whom she is should be affectionate and motherly towards. FIL - We have a electrical part damaged and DH went to FIL to inform this is not working, i will go and repair it in the evening. FIL just rudely said - What will you go and do? you won't understand anything. DH - How won't i understand, i am the one who bought. FIL just said - You don't know anything! Both of them think DH has zero capacity to do anything. The thing is i can understand some guys are dependent on their parents, even after marriage - which is fine. But my DH is not, he wants to do things and wants to take responsibility but FIL & MIL keep insulting him for such small things, that it does not even make sense. They literally keep telling him for everything - you don't know how to do this, you can't do this. MIL will keep giving him instructions on how to live everyday life, like now you come to eat, now you go to sleep, keep the shoes here. Its extremely frustrating to my DH go through this, because he loves his parents dearly as they have done a lot for him. But i have told to him stand up for himself, he keeps saying - they won't change, they have always done this, and they will always do this. Its not that he is pampered - but they are controlling him beyond life !! And i hate how they behave with him because it will sooner or later lower his self confidence. MILs shouting is considered normal in my home because 'its always what she has done' ... and FILs taking up every thing in his hands even at the age of 70 is taken as it is , because apparently He is the father. They are spoiling their owns sons life and bullying him !! They just want to control him. Luckily the times DH stands up and speaks out is when MIL & FIL listen to him, but then again its back to the old ways. My question is - should i interfere or let it be as who am i to say anything in between parents and their child. I can understand my role in their lives, but if this situation is how it has always been - what right do i have to say anything? Its not that i don't say anything , I have been saying it to DH but he doesn't understand that i am saying this for his good, he just says they are parents, they won't change, they are like that only. But should i keep on continuing saying or leave it, since DH is ok with it ?