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don;t know what to do

Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by sashie, Nov 3, 2007.

  1. sashie

    sashie New IL'ite

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    hi ladies, i have a question for those of you who have better experiences then me. Recently , i found out alot more things that have been said about me (by il's, sil and other relatives on husband's side). my question, how do i face all these people when we visit il's? All of them are talking about me behind my back, and my husb only see's their point of view. most of your advice has been to ignore, be happy etc, , but if you are face with so many people against you, how can you pretend? my il;s came to visit me recently, when they saw me, they walked away and ignore me. they were playing with my kid. they only say hi to their son. it was reallly tense time for me, but i put brave face on, inside i was crying. when i visit my ils i have to visit all of their family evry time, they always make comment, that i don;t come enough etc. but again i just ignore. every time i get stong, my il;s gossip more about me, my husb not support me, i have been blamed for evrything. thanks sash
     
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  2. Eljaype

    Eljaype Bronze IL'ite

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    Dear Sashie,

    I can tell you one thing. This happens everytime. As you have said get strong with each comment. We cannot stop their comments. Tongues are the easiest like dog tails to wag all the time. Just let them do what they want to do, we do our duty.

    I have a Co sister who ignores me when ever she visits me or sees me somewhere else, but when she has something which needs my help, she'll be there smiling and talking to me as if we are long lost friends. Later I found out that it was due to Inferiority complex. So I don't care what she does.

    Like wise, just ignore even if it hurts you. You'll come to know why they are doing like his after sometime. Then you'll get reconciled. It is their weakness. They don't have something which you have. That is the reason for the jealousy.

    When you go visiting do not show your anger or worries to them. Just be your ownself. If they are not talking with you, take a book or something which is lying there and start reading and ignore them.:cool2:

    I have succeeded in giving it back to them and I hope you do that too. In our own way we'll give it to them , but no back biting like them. Ok

    Love
    Latha :wave
     

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