Does your husband help carry the luggage when you take a family trip? My husband doesnt do that. Actually, my husband wasnt like this when we were married. Things were very different. He was very short tempered and very opinianated. I faced a lot of issues when i was initially married. Sometime during the last 5-6 years, things changed a bit. I changed and he also changed. Anyway, even in the earlier days, he never assisted me in helping lift heavy things. For that matter, even during pregnancy, he never helped lift a bucket of hot water. I still remember dragging it across the hall when i was fully pregnant and hauling it up the high step to put it in the bathroom. Anyway, these are things i have chosen to forgive him for given how he has changed in a lot of aspects. But it is very difficult for me to forget. But i have made peace with all that. I try to look at all the positives that he has. My mom was just bringing me update to date on the family gossips few hours ago and in that flow she told me how my uncle was asking her as to why only me and my elder son carry the luggages while my husband doesn't. My mom remarked saying that my daughter does everything herself. She takes care of him, her children and me also. Thats how its always been. But thankfully for her, the elder son is now helping in everything and her yougner one will soon start helping her stuff as well. Yes, i have completely stopped expecting any kind of help from my husband. My husband bends backwards to thelp someone out in the street but would never help me lift a luggage. Not that he has a grudge but he doesnt do it. I used to get upset earlier and ask him why he doesnt do it and his answer was - dont you have two arms and two legs? If i can do it, why cant you? Are you and me not alike and equal? why do you expect special treatment. When the luggage is very heavy at times, he helps when i ask but otherwise, its always been me and my son when he grew up or me and my mom earlier. Growing up, i always saw my grandfather, uncles handling the heavy stuff while leaving the light ones to the ladies. My father though he never carried anything, he ensured the helpers handled the luggage. So my husband's attitude seemed rude initially but now i am accustomed to it. I resolved to never expect anything from him and honestly i still dont. But my mom's casual remark brought back some unpleasant memories. Just wanted to know if i am trying to see a problem when there is none. So again, does your husband help with the luggage when you go out on a trip?