Does the Husband need to be Older than the Wife?

Ganymede · Nov 28, 2010

rameshraju said: ↑

Basically there are 3 reasons why husband should be elder to his wife for marriage.
(1) Medically Girls are matured mentally and physically between the ages of 14 and 16, where as boys mature physically and mentally between the ages of 20 and 25. So a girl of 16-18 years possesses maturity equivalent to that of a boy of 20-25 years. This is the reason why in school age girls score more marks than boys. So maturity levels are balanced when husband is elder to his wife.
(2) The potency (sexual capacity) in women drops after the age of 60 onwards, where as the potency in men drops at the age of 70 onwards. To prevent Men going to other women, after wife losing her potency, it was decided by the ancients that Husband should be elder to his wife.
(3) If husband is elder in a family, organizational structure in a family is preserved.

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As for your first point, Do you have any medical research proof to back up your claim? and as far as the preference for older husband because of the maturity factor is concerned, I thought we all knew that the phrase 'mature guy' is an oxymoron

Personally, I too would prefer an older (not more than a year though) guy, but the only reason is that I've been socially conditioned to think this way. Not that I feel that an older guy is going to possess any sort of maturity, which a younger one can't.

winner · Nov 28, 2010

Hi KS

we are happily married for 7 yrs and my hubby is 3 yrs younger to me... i dont know the scientific facts but i always felt my hubby is matured than me and most of the times his suggestions or decisions were wiser and mature than me.. we both are equally qualified too...so basically love and understanding plays big role in wedding nothing else...

tashidelek2002 · Nov 28, 2010

Rameshraju is totally wrong on the biology of the sexes...he needs to read some books before spouting off. I am not going to waste my time responding in detail to such nonsense.

kAlyaniShAnti · Nov 28, 2010

winner said: ↑

Hi KS
so basically love and understanding plays big role in wedding nothing else...
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Dear Winner,
Thank you for your valuable time and comments here, that too for being a live and happy example for this matter.

I echo your realization. Mutual respect is the foundation and love and understanding are the pillars in a marriage.

Regards

kAlyaniShAnti · Nov 28, 2010

Ganymede said: ↑

Not that I feel that an older guy is going to possess any sort of maturity, which a younger one can't.
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Maturity is a personal trait. Age may make one matured, but it does not mean that all men (or women) of a particular age group have similar levels of maturity.

I have seen many aged people behave utterly immature, whereas young ones are capable of handling their lives and decisions in a much balanced and matured way.

Thank you, Gany for visiting here.

RadiantCat · Feb 26, 2011

KS I came across this thread only today. One of my former coworkers is 7 years older than her husband and her husband reports to her at work.

I know another case where the lady is older by 3 years and the present trend is +1 or -1 and age difference is not more than 3 years.

kAlyaniShAnti · Feb 27, 2011

Yes, Dear CW, we get to see such live examples around (though not many). I personally feel that it is NOT NEEDED that the H has to be older than the wife... But I believe the spouse have to have lots of guts and be very matured to get into such relationship.

RadiantCat · Feb 27, 2011

Certainly KS. Some of my friends are married this way and they are absolutely fine.

sadwife · Feb 27, 2011

I know few couples; wife is older than the husband and they are perfectly happy together.
I think basically it depends on how they maintain/ manage their relationship. I have also heard of few marriages that ended up in divorce because the wife was much older than the husband and the husband started to stray with younger women.

I personally feel the husband should be older than the wife, atleast by 3 years.
They would be well accepted by society without much fuss and weird looks.

lollipop · Feb 27, 2011

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winner[/U];1527758]Hi KS

we are happily married for 7 yrs and my hubby is 3 yrs younger to me... i dont know the scientific facts but i always felt my hubby is matured than me and most of the times his suggestions or decisions were wiser and mature than me.. we both are equally qualified too...so basically love and understanding plays big role in wedding nothing else...
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