My friend early 30's career oriented, has a good job in US. She was previously engaged to a guy 4 yrs back thru arranged by parents. Lots of red flags from the man's family and man himself was greedy spoke only about money. So friend's father broke the engagement. They asked more dowry, they asked to transfer properties on his name etc. Whole family took quite time to rewind from bitter experience. Meanwhile she came here for a job and continuing here. Didn't like any guys further for few years. Now a prospective groom from a portal, 36 yrs dentist, siblings settled, well traveled etc. My friend likes, her parents are happy with it. Upon further discussion we came to know that... 1) the guy's grandfather had 2 wives. 2) the guy's father has a child from illegal second wife (legal wife's son is this guy) who visits their home in India. Second wife & family live in same city as legal wife. 3) this guy's sibling got married during UG college days later divorced in PG days. Now married to a coworker.,got married without telling family. The guy had told about grand father and father's second wives stories, but didn't tell sibling story we accidentally came to know thru a reliable friend. I think we have to verify all aspects when it comes to marriage that too these days... My friend's mom is okay with this alliance but dad is totally against it. Friend is the only daughter, her dad is saying this family isn't good later this guy may do something BTW friend's dad is a doctor by profession. Mom is saying "if grandpa, dad are cheating it doesn't mean this guy would do" The guy also telling same, just because my family is like that I won't be. He had openly told friend after few dates. Imo, I felt Peculiar that his dad's second wife's adult child visits first wife's house. His dad has no shame that he cheated his wife still cheating for 25 yrs. How can it happen WHY the first wife didn't fight or left her husband etc.. My friend is interested but confused on this point, does Infidelity run in family? Can my friend go with this alliance?