Do not feel like talking to my husband

Hugs to you dear. I remember your previous thread but don't have anything new to add.

Since you work yourself, make sure you safeguard your money. Go for marital counselling and chart out which issues bother you and how you not intend tackling them. If he refuses to come, you go anyway and figure out if there is anything at all in this marriage worth saving...

PS: Before someone jumps at my throat for suggesting she takes the hard line, I want to mention this response takes into account the things OP had mentioned in her previous thread too.

 

Maybe people didnt reply because they didn't find your other thread and this thread in itself seems to be missing details to give a proper reply.

If your DH doesn't reply keep asking. Just because he doesn't want to talk, doesn't mean that you should let him off the hook.

 

me too having problems understanding the full situation with uncle as i didnt read your previous thread. Maybe you can share some more details or give link to other thread? Here given information confused me a bit.

I agree with FromMars that just coz he refuseto talk to you you shudnt follow this wish and let him off the hook.
About your question wether its normal that husbands dont inform but hide information about financial matters. Well, its unfortunately quite a common problem but its not normal per my personal opinion. As we are sailing same boat then our hubbies we will fall down together with them or raise with them together and have stable life finance wise if they invest badly or wisely, as its ours and our kids safety and future too and many of us give their share of financial support or other sort of support we shud have same say in how to handle it.
Is finances your main issue? Any chance and way you can assure such thing with uncle wont happen again? Did you ask him streight after he promised it wont repeat that you want overview of finances and accounts, savings etc.?

From your description of his charater, gullible, spineless it doesnt sound for me that the uncle situation is the only issue here.. but i might be wrong...
You tried to watch movies together? Finding some common hobbies, interests? Do you have kids or stay in joint family? If not maybe some spontanious vacation wud "spice" up the marriage bit and get you both out of routine?... Im just shooting in the dark as i really dont know your exact situation or problem dear...

Edit: i read through your previous thread now and my feeling grew stronger that your main problem is neither finances or that specific uncle but something else i can harldly catch right now... if the one-time-event with the uncle wud been main problem you wudnt mention the cold uncommunicative atmosphere for example...about solving the finance issue there was a lot of valuable advice and i unfortunately have nothing new to add here...

 

Your first problem here is this worrying about what reputation your family might have. Every family has troubles; discussing your hopes, fears, and troubles with those around you is perfectly natural. If anyone were to judge you negatively for your family woes, that simply means you're a better person than them -- a black mark on them, not you! Being open about your personal life with those around you will give you a better sense of who in your life is real, and who's concerned more with keeping up silly appearances.

As for your husband, no, there is no such thing as "all men are like this" or "all men are like that" -- your husband's issues are his as an individual, gender is not at all the issue here.

You need to reach a consensus with him that from here on out, any financial decisions above the usual day-to-day threshold need to be talked out in advance by the both of you, and if you can't agree the financial transaction doesn't happen.

 

Why do you feel you can't?

 

What keeps you in this marriage? is there any chance you will be happy on his side and you both learn to work and walk hand in hand? the more i read the more tricky and complicated the situation gets and it seems for me right now like your husband is not really botherd wether yu are happy in the marriage or not. does he care for you otherwise? Was he from beginning just like that or did something changed the whole situation?
Does he share information about finances? if yes thats good, its a starting point.
Some of the previous posters suggested to invest for example in property etc. to secure you. If you are working make sure your salary wont be spent on his family and try to safe and invest wisely.
If the situation with his family is so tensed try to not mention anything regarding them but try to focus on positive sentences (without you word or mentioning family members) and suggestive content like what you both cud do to secure for olden age, education of children etc.
About children in general... i agree with you completely its not good to bring kids into picture right now as your marriage is really rocked and unstable...