Do in-laws change after having grandchildren?

I would not bring a child to that kind of environment. First build a loving and peaceful home and then it would be time for babies.

 

I don't think basic nature of people will change, if your MIL is nasty now , she will stay nasty . You need to find ways to cope with her.

one thing may be true, she might get occupied with the baby and think less about troubling you ..

 

You never know. But highly unlikely.
That said why would your first point of consideration in having a baby should be such nasty person who doesn't care a bit about you?
If you think you are ready to be parents go ahead. If she is good welcome, if not find ways to keep her out.
This too much attention from us makes their pompous egoes go sky high.
Its upto you. Your life your body your responsibility. You decide
Good luck
Vaidehi

 

It is unlikely she will change her behavior towards you.
She may or may not dote on the child once it arrives, but don't expect her to suddenly be nicer to you. At best she may just leave you alone.
What is your husband's position in this situation? He should be standing up for you.
As long as you have a good bond with your husband, you should not be letting your MIL's attitude be dictating when to start a family.

 

Couple of years back I had the same query..I posted it here..You might find it useful.Pasting the link..
http://www.indusladies.com/forums/relationship-with-in-laws/154956-does-having-kids-brings-dh.html

 

That said,now I have a kid and I have my own personal experience.Having a kid is definitely good-you and your DH would bond on a different level,he would help in LO's works,you would get very busy etc..But frankly speaking,it would hardly help in problems related to ILs-atleast in my case it didn't help much..
MIL and SIL are so shrewd that they don't leave any opportunity to express their fake love for DD(although they would never lift a spoon to help),its just verbal care and love.But constant show of this thing makes DH "awwwwwwwww they are so caring,they love our DD so much" etc.. After having my DD,they all bond more,talk more etc..
But yeah,it takes away your time and makes the child number one priority..
So,physically and financially,YES it helps but emotionally,it makes men think how much sacrificece their parents did or how much these people love the kid..
But,having a kid broadened my vision and made me more rational in dealing with ILs,my focus too changed..

 

She won't change.You may have to change things around.Have a plan to deal with her first.

 

Hii,

Take my word- MIL will never ever change.

she will always be MIL.

Once u become a mother, the child will be theirs. and u will only be A Bahu.

Your Hus will be always her son, and his child will also be hers. But never ever she will accept u.

be ready to hear - the way u take care of child is not good- u don't know anything-

and mamma boy ( hubby) will remain silent, as usual.

this I am writing because of my personal experience.

I hope u have a different story.

Regards
resmij

 

People don't change just like that.... Unless otherwise she has some immense want for ages for a grandkids... If you wait for other people it's gonna be forever. Have a baby when you and your husband are ready... I don't see a point waiting for anyone else

As of the love for the baby, maternal side can still be trusted as they wont get anything out from just show-off. I always believed paternal side also is as pure but you never know if it's for the love or for the goodies from their son. This y- chromosome endowment makes things so confusing.....