Hi All, I really need your advice before making any conclusion. Here is my story in brief. I was married for 15 years with 2 preteen kids. The problem I have in my marriage is my husband. He is very self centered, very insecure and very egotic person and on top of it he came from a family where parents were always fighting. Right from the beginning of my marriage he always felt very insecure that I do not love/care for him by pointing out small isuues like talking on phone with friends/parents and delaying his lunch/dinner. Logically these poitns seem correct, but how do these affect a relationship when the delay is for 10-15 mins or at the most 30 mins and when they happen a couple of times in a month. I tried rectifying these by not repeating them, but the list seems endless and even after 15 years he isn't satisfied. Everything I do/say is incorrect. Even sillier things like "where are you going" is misinterpretated as "so from now on I need to take your permission to go out". This has slowly raised my guilt levels and now I find myself composing myself during the day to ask him any one question after he returns from work. We rarely talk now a days. I guess the cummulative time we talk in a month is 1 hour and all those conversations would be initiated by me and span for a min or so. These would be reminders about upcoming appointments or any to do lists. Just because he feels strongly negative about whatever I talk, he feels I do not want him and so slowly stopped taking part in family activities. Now his life has become so mechanical that he is there with us like any other object in the house like a tv or computer. He just withdrew from family. If I try talking to him, he never responds, just like a wall he stares at me. no matter what I say. Another side effect to his character is that he is very serious looking and never smiles even when other people are there. It is very embarassing to go out with him or invite people to our place. He never smile or wishes anyone and just walks away to do his work. Now the good part of my marriage is though I am living like a single parent, I get all the financial and materialistic support needed to raise the kids. I have the complete freedom to go anywhere, take any decisions for the kids and no questions asked. Similarly the kids got used to their dad's expressions and talk to him only when appropriate. They come to me for everything else. For now I am happy with my kids and they keep me busy. But what will I do after they leave to college. The other question that keeps popping is am I doing the right thing for my kids? Will they also start developing feelings of guilt and not turn out to be confident girls?