Hi Ladies, I need your valuable inputs for a serious problem that I have with my husband here I've been married for 14yrs and have a 12 yrs old. Both me and my H are working IT consultants. My H is a total control freak. All at home should obey his orders kinda guy. However, he is a very good father and known as very calm and nice guy to his family and friends. This incident happened couple of weeks ago - One morning my H was so stress and came to confess something that happened to him that previous night . He told me that he is in a complete mess involving with a lady and police. My H said that he met this lady X in some public gatherings through a common friend. The common friend introduced X as a single mum and she need some help in finding a tenant to share a flat with her as she is struggling financially. So this common friend suggested my H to help her as my H have good contacts in a place where she lives. Since my H has a helping nature, he agreed to help her. She used to approach him now and then for pity things asking for a help. My H helping her was happening without my knowledge. I have never seen or met this X. I'm just pening down what husband has told me so far on her. My H says one night she pinged him on a FB messenger and started to chat in general asking as how he doing etc..the chatting with her went on till midnight. When I and my daughter were in deep sleep my H has gone to meet this lady at her flat(all this happened without my knowledge) He told me that she instigated him to go meet her as she was stressed, depressed and need a shoulder to cry for. My H went to meet her at her flat in the night without my knowledge. She gave a glass of wine to him and tried to seduce him by pulling him to dance. She was taking a video all this while and then all of sudden she started to blackmail him by demanding him the money and If he failed to do so she'll send the recording to me and post the video in social platform. My H was petrified and tried to convince her to delete the video but she started to act weird asking him to leave the place. Therefore, my H snatched the phone from her hand and came home quietly. In the morning, he again went back to her place to hand over the phone back to her and to his surprise, the police were already taking the statement from her. He had a brief conversation with police there and explained what happened and handed her phone to police and was back home. After he coming home he so scared and nervous as what's going to happen next! He quietly came to me and started to tell me that he is in a complete mess and told whole story of what happened asking sorry for what all happened. I was in total shock and was in tears to learn all this happening behind my back. My H did confess to me saying he used to chat only once or twice a month with her only when she start the conversation and he says he hardly knew her otherwise and was trying to help her that’s it! When I asked his show the FB chat history he says he has deleted everything including her contact number. Now incident happened 2 weeks ago and luckily there was no call from police. Looks like the lady would have withdrawn the complaint. After learning that this won't become a police case , now my H acts so normal as nothing happened and back to controlling nature. He expects me to forget as what happened and be normal. I feel he is so manipulating. His actions still haunts me as why he has go in the mid night to meet her if he hardly knew her? I’m mentally disturbed and have no respect for him. I can’t be the same to again. Also I need to say that few yrs ago I caught him chatting with some other lady and he promised then too saying he won't repeat again. Do I still need to forget everything and trust him again?