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Do Curses By Elders Actually Come True?

Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by Needtobestrong, May 12, 2021.

  1. Anisu

    Anisu Platinum IL'ite

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    Dear OP,

    Dont lose hope. You are doing great. Concentrate on getting the job . With the current situation, all this is common. Its frustrating for everyone at times.
    Hugs to you.
     
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    Anusha2917 IL Hall of Fame

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    Recently I attended 2 interviews and failed terribly. One interviewer in one of the interview was my ex colleague. She sent me a message saying how bad I fared and need revision of all basic concepts . I have a break of almost 2 years. The same colleague had praised me for one of the projects I had done with her when we were in the same organization.. So it made feel all the more miserable.. As much as I felt very bad ,I realized all I need is consistent preparation.
    So don't relate the two, curse n job scenario. Job market is like a race. You need excellent preparation and you need to outshine all other candidates. The odds of getting a job is good "if and only if" you are ahead of other candidates.. It's a tricky situation as you don't know how others have performed. So from your end all you can do is prepare prepare n prepare. I know it's hard but we gotta keep trying .
    Regarding Curse of MIL NO THEY DON'T WORK. Period.
     
  3. messedup

    messedup Platinum IL'ite

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    Blessings and curse come out of positive and negative feelings respectively. In older times it used to work exactly as every person at that time had lots of good deeds in their account that were enough to make their words work. But nowadays not everyone has that much in their account. So it depends. If a person who has never done anything bad and is a pure soul may give the exact thing but not all. For others it's just a feel of moment.

    These days nothing is going good. All the news that's coming to us making us weak somewhere. It's the time to stay alive. Everything else comes after that. Just think that we may also die in this pandemic. For that we have only few days left, so just live each moment and don't worry about future. If God will save us from this then he must have chosen some path for us which will become clear sooner or later.
     
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    EagerForInfo Silver IL'ite

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    Unfortunately I believe they will come true. .But after searching online I feel there are things you can do to prevent them.. I think narasimha swamy vratham and satyanarayana swamy vratam can free you from curses. Also I also think narasimha swamy pictures in your room will keep you safe. My opinion is she has no right to curse you. Did you do anything to her? I am pretty sure you didn't. But anyways search online or ask a priest. Of course, I am in the same boat as you and am still searching for solutions too.. it is your life as long as you are not a lazy pig or harming others you can be any way you want. And I can see your intentions are good.. Stay confident you were once praiseworthy (of course proves your mother in law is wrong) you can become praise worthy again. Technology is changing (if you are in IT).. take some courses and you will be good as new.. All the best. I will watfch this thread too as I need suggestsion too.
     
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    Roar Gold IL'ite

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    People who are that spiritually capable actually wouldnt curse anyone... spritual curse is an oxymoron.

    People who curse arnt that spiritually able ;so its not a worry. It wont come true unless you make it happen for yourself. Its your choice which you want to see coming true; your dream or theirs.
     
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    Patientone Silver IL'ite

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    What you have described is abuse. It’s not normal neither you should accept it. Just recently a lot of Bahus have recorded their in-laws saying things like this to them on their mobile phones. They then play it back to their families or people close to them. In-laws get embarrassed and stop that behaviour.

    Tell ur mil an unjust curse goes against one who made it. Nah don’t tell her but she has enough high blood pressure from cursing you so much. Leave it and live in happiness. Just think she says those things because she’s jealous. I’d record her next time and show people so she stops...because from your post it’s evident it’s affecting you...yeah it would because it’s ABUSE...it’s untrue words that are deliberately said to be malicious and to hurt you...fight back somehow subtly...or be kind to her so she feels ashamed...if it carries on id record and show people..
     
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    When I was newly married, my mil used to hurt me when my husband wasn’t around. When he did come I used to take it out on him. I was foolish like that, because that’s what she wanted. However the times I stayed quiet because her words pained me so much. I just use to cry and leave it to God. I didn’t curse but automatically God cursed her for me. She used to either fake illness if my husband cared for me because I was sad (the times I didn’t tell him things) till God made her ill in reality... these MILs they’re so good at drama they should win oscars for acting, they’re so good at manipulating and abusing they should be police officers...leave it to God and be happy...if it fails and you can’t hack it..I’d record...
     
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  8. Needtobestrong

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    Thanks friends, for your replies..
    As someone pointed out, I’m lacking in EQ, I.e emotional quotient...
    That’s why I’m getting such irrational thoughts...
    I’m not in the right state of mind..
    My MIL and FIL are religious people, at times orthodox in their ways.. but despite their devotion and prayers , they don’t hesitate to create troubles in my life...
    If they really cared for my well being they would stay separately..
    I’m very mentally depressed these days due to problems in personal life...and everyday we are in fear as some one known to us or some one living in nearby flats in our community being diagnosed now with Covid and getting notified about it..
    Actually my husband is not behaving well with me these days..he yells and shouts and fights with me all the time.I just cannot recognise the person he has become..prior to the pandemic he wasn’t that bad...if he is supportive I can manage even in laws..But that’s not so..I’m not sure about my future..unless im financially independent, I don’t know for know what future I’ll have..
    Everyday there are fights at home..
    Other ladies are working and financially independent hence they’re respected, and can afford expensive gadgets and full time domestic helpers to manage their work..that’s what I’ve noticed..they have some change rather than doing household chores full day non stop...and if woman is working atleast others pitch in for chores and don’t expect her to do everything.
    I don’t want to be an unpaid servant..
    Saying safe and alive in this situation is such a big challenge.
    Not being able to get a job is also very scary.
     
  9. anika987

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    Is your mil Dr Abdul kalam or a NASA scientist? Why u hold her in such high regards?

    Infact you do not need to hold anyone in such high regard.She knows she can irritate you and you will feel bad and using it to her advantage.

    she know “you care”..

    how to not care? By developing self worth.

    You are fantastic just the way you are.Self introspect and you will have so many things u can be proud of.

    We are all unique and there is no need to compare also.You are Amazing and your level of strength to be around them is awesome.That itself is commendable at this day and age.Not many can be in your shoes..trust me.

    She is trying to belittle you.Just change your mind set and belief system.

    Stop giving her importance.

    She is not God.Her curse won’t come true.


    You continue being the good person that you are and just don’t get her words in your head.


    I was in your position until last year and things changed.

    Infacy..2 days back I communicated to her directly of her ways and she never once accepted her faults and started blaming me.Waste of time and energy trying to change people.


    Agree job is important for you but everything has a time and place and situation differs.So accept and be patient.Go for a job coz you love it.

    But If you think job as an escape..think again.Office politics and coming home to inlaws is another level altogether!

    so go for a job when you are personally ready.Then you will enjoy the journey.

    Better change our mind for our peace!

    Good luck dear.
     
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  10. Needtobestrong

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    Thanks dear for your reassuring words..
    When I was working, I used to finish my share of work in morning like lunch, BF prep, laundry etc and rush to office,..would come back only in late evening at dinner time..
    I really had a change..could financially afford to buy stuff and afford good vacations..could hire maid and and part time cook for domestic chores and making roti, cutting veggies etc..that was a real help...
    I never used to spend too much time in kitchen and always kept menu simple to concentrate on job while working.....these in laws are the ones who always increase the workload and and want elaborate cooking and religious rituals...
    As I was out at work for long hours , and had to work on weekends too, I was out of sight and out of reach of them...
    Could hang out for tea and snacks and snacks, pizzas, team lunches etc with colleagues..
    Was well dressed and could afford trendy clothes..my husband looked at me with respect , when I discussed work related matters and when I shared expenses..
    My husband, believe me was a totally different person many years back when in laws didn’t live with us and visited only now and then...

    I realize the importance of career after suffering from problems in personal life..
    Most of my batchmates in school, college workplaces are in good positions, team lead, senior consultant, manager, etc..yes..many are doing PhD or already finished..
    My friends told me to create LinkedIn profile and stay active..
    I did that...
    And after seeing profiles of my known people, getting Panick attacks and feeling ashamed to contact and talk to them..
     
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