DRJP It's good to know that you are leaning towards separation. Divorce is never a "good" thing and no one wins when it happens. But, it is something that cannot be avoided in certain situations like your's. Unless your husband is a "bad father," taking kids away from him is not a good thing. Someone might be a bad spouse, but still can be a good parent. Unless you can prove that he is a bad father, you cannot really take the kids away from him......especially if your kids are US Citizens. No court will allow you to do that and your divorce process will be a long drawn one!! If you are a permanent resident/citizen here and have a job, you should consider living in the US and giving your kids an opportunity to have both parents in their life. It might seem easier now for you to move back to India since you have your parents' support........but think in the long term as to what is best for your children. If you have specific questions for single moms, then ask away!! I will be glad to share my experiences with you.