Discussion in 'Life Without Spouse' started by ProudIndian, Mar 27, 2021.
You can rekindle romance with your husband .. after all you two made beautiful kids
Do I have to explain myself about if we had kids through IUI or IVF or if we had IC only for the baby-making process.
I have been ranting about this issue for years and my multiple posts on IL area proof of it. I see people here supporting me to an extent that this has become the most comfortable place to express the feelings that I wouldn't say to anyone in the real world.
Thank you. Lack of courage and fear of unknowns - I need to overcome.
I didn't mean to hack this thread and make it about myself and my usual cryings.
I am sorry.
All I wanted to say is I am so curious to know about an answer for OPs question.
I read a post about someone somewhere that even when you become an empty nester it is not that easy to divorce because then you want to make sure your broken marriage doesn't affect kids finding a good partner. Is it still true even in the US - in Indian culture, a daughter/son of a divorcee is less favorable than a daughter/son of a married couple as a bride/groom?
Similar situation. We kind of separated at this point. In our case, husband will withhold sex, affection unless I am getting along with his family. After all they have done, that is no way for me. And again, deeply hurt with the conditional marriage and his dismissive nature when I even say why I am hurt, it would be another thing if he put our relation above all this and I proactively be nice to his family to make him happy.
Next year probably will take up a job in a new city and go. Till then, we are on our own under the same roof, separate bedrooms, no talking at all, I stopped cooking too now for him, we are on our own for food and groceries. I have compromised several times and swallowed my ego and went back and talked but I don't think I can do anymore. It is very clear I don't mean anything to him, I need to build a support system outside. It is almost 25 years of marriage, feels so empty from inside, and what I did to deserve this.
@snehalJoshi - I didnt know about your story,,please do what you think is right..there r fraud desi men who hide their impotency or other sexual inclination..u deserve true love n happiness too
@lavi2016 - good you posted your story, as it gives lesson to women that a wrong man will not change even after 25 years of marriage..
thankfully, God made me realize this soon enough and my parents also fully supported my decision as they also believed a wrong man will never change so not to waste life with a bad husband.
this is very wrong thinking. Next generation kids don’t even care or stay with parents. as soon as they turn 18 they are their own. They don’t want parents to sacrifice their life or compromise. Kids want parents should be happy. Next generation may not even believe in marriage. They prefer live in relationships. Whoever told u that daughter of divorcee has less value is really stupid hypocrite.
In my opinion, Relationships are always something tied up together and you have less space to move around. more or less compared to previous relations. If you really looking for happiness and enjoy the life after a failed relationship , be single.
No @peet you are wrong, I have seen second marriages where both men n women are much more happier than their first marriage n the right second marriage energized them in such a way that they got better jobs, their overall health improved n much more !!
I said, it's my opinion.. based on things I have seen around me.. But agree with your views based on what you have seen and I'm not..anyway good for the OP ,giving heads upon what are the possible paths she might come across in a second relationship.