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Divorce After Age 50

Discussion in 'Life Without Spouse' started by ProudIndian, Mar 27, 2021.

  1. ProudIndian

    ProudIndian Gold IL'ite

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    Lot of Indian women in unhappy marriages Wait for kids to go college so kids should not have any bad effect of divorce. By that time women’s age becomes 50. Is it possible to find new partner in that age? How is life for Indian single women after 50 in USA? What if women is financially independent and doesn’t want to remarry but want to experience good companionship?
     
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  2. anika987

    anika987 Finest Post Winner

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    I feel it is totally your choice and your life.If you are unhappy with your partner and both amicably decide to separate..it is totally fine.Society has absolutely no say in it and you don’t even need to care.


    Your kids are now adults and they should also understand that you have a life.True they may feel quite bad to even relate to another person in their mom’s life but you need to communicate with them and try to explain your point of view.

    You should also understand your kids will never be okay with it and you should also be totally okay with the fact that the possibility of your kids not at all being comfortable with the new person in your life.They may also dislike your choices but it all depends on your mental strength,how true you are to your feelings.How you handle it basically.

    Again..it does not make you selfish to prioritize your choices.You were a good mom and wife and you did your duties.It’s totally fine to choose a life you like after you have done what you had to do.

    What is right for one person is wrong for another.That’s the fact.

    However,You are the only person totally responsible for your actions and feelings.Remember that.

    The same choices we make will be okay and not okay at different stages in your life.Everyone‘a feelings, priorities and what they want is different.

    As long as you live in a way true to yourself without harming another person it is fine whatever you do.
     
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    anika987 Finest Post Winner

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    Also,in USA nobody cares.Even our fellow Indian friends strangely mentally become more open and broad minded abroad.It is all due to influence of the society.

    Maybe people may gossip a bit behind the scenes or some might be upfront with your choices but none of their business.

    It also depends on the kind of friendships and people you “choose” to be acquainted with.

    I remember now..three years back my aunt’s friend close to 50 was getting married to another guy and I met her at a party.Honestly,nobody judged nor did she care.
     
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    Hopikrishnan Platinum IL'ite

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    Financially independent ? If that be so, divorce is a thing to consider, whether marriage is happy or not.

    Quite a lot of couples, each making a high income, would find divorce another strategy to save money on taxes. This is tax season in America; you can do a calculation for a hypothetical married couple making equal amounts [X00K each] of high salaries with a Joint Tax Return as well as two single tax returns, and compare the savings. If the incomes of the two are high enough, and most deductions are pretty much unavailable, they would save enough money for one or both kids' expense in a state university.

    Of course, they'd have to keep it a secret from the kids, if the kids are susceptible to "bad effect". This scenario (secretly divorced) would eliminate the need to go looking for a new companionship.
     
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    ajjukarai New IL'ite

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    Iam in the same boat. Nearing 50 soon. Only son is in college. Planning to move out and live alone. Iam financially independent and not interested in any companionship. I find relationships to be overwhelming and too much of a burden. Also, at this age i am not willing to adjust and compromise. I am better off living alone and i so badly want the personal space. Then there are my parents and wonderful siblings. If at all i feel lonely, i would rather go spend a few days with my siblings.
     
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    SuiDhaaga Platinum IL'ite

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    My concern is for women 50+ who want to get married.

    What if the guy is using them for $$$
     
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    Hopikrishnan Platinum IL'ite

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    36% of households in the USA are single person households. This is from our census data. Among this lot there are all manner of outlooks towards marrying.
    LOL.... Restaurants are graded with such symbols: $, $$, $$$, $$$$, $$$$$
    A financially independent woman should be able to set aside how much she wants to spend, and have a good life.
     

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