That was from #3 of this thread. Holding their attention for a spell to describe something and confirming that it all went in and got registered is a challenge. It is not good to try and stuff it all in one go. I have no advice on how any parent should approach this, because the children are all custom-made. Having a dependable friend of the parents to help the child in a critical situation is good for expat families living far from their home countries. If there is to be a useful tangent to this thread, it is to ask how/where one had found a trust-worthy friend who may advise your impressionable child without you having to vet and amend whatever the child receives. What if you haven't got such a friend or relative? -- is another thing altogether. Would IL members advise how to get one ? How about fire-drills ? Many of us would have this experience at work, especially in K-12 schools, and some large employers' with blue & white collar outputs in the same location. Once in a while, there will be a call for everyone to behave as if there is a fire, earthquake, or some sort of evacuation emergency, and the immediate response will be observed, recorded, audited and improved upon. I wouldn't advise running an actual simulation on an adultish child; however, the parent (who is even a half-Rihana) could sit in a quiet spot, and run a mental simulation of the sequence of things to happen in an emergency. Have a notepad to write down what Jr. and/or Missy would likely do. You will come up with possible improvements for your specific situation. Don't harangue the kids afterwards about your machinations. Dispense hugs all around, and be happy. If you must, google your questions, or have one of those bed-mate chats in the wee hours of the morning. Always good for a laugh. Obviously we assume the married couple to be totally trusting one another. If this is not the case, the financial planning for the beneficiaries is more complex and difficult.