disappointed with gender

oh unlucky me...to be frank enough i think you are in 10th century.

How bad your baby will feel if u think like that??any idea about that??I strongly want to diasgree your statement that girls will go of after upbringing.Many girls are there who work and give the alary to their parents.And soooooo many boys are there who just leave thier parents and go.I personally think that you are blessed with a baby.
Did you visit ttc forum and see how of us want a baby desperately and we have not got that luck???Please dont be gender biased and happily accept your baby as a god's gift.
I wish your post about hating girl baby is only the result of oyur pregnancy hormones.

It is time to enjoy and dont think all negative things.

take care.Have a happy pregnancy.
asha

 

i agree with asha, motherhood is really a gift from god, many of us waiting for our turn to be blessed with a child. its a wonderful experience, but you are feeling abt gender.

Actually u r lucky, never say unlucky n dont think abt gender anymore, if ur mother thought like this then wat was happened just think of it, just enjoy the motherhood each n every second is valuable now dont waste it instead of thinking unnecessarily. Pls understand
have a happy n healthy pregnancy

 

Dont worry too much about the gender of the baby. Boy or girl, just pray that baby should be healthy and fine. Who knows what is going to happen in future. Even the boys leave their parents and settle abroad. Don't think too much about the future and enjoy the present. Dont be stressed about the gender. Enjoy your pregnancy. This is the best moment of your life. Your life will be completely different after the baby is born. Trust me , all your worries will disappear when you hold your baby in your arms. Enjoy every little moments of your little one - her first smile, her first word, her first step. After all, babies are babies- boy or girl, doesnt matter. All babies are cute, sweet and innocent. Just imagine how will your baby feel, if she knows that you wanted a boy , not a girl... Be happy and enjoy the last month of your pregnancy.

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HI,

Chill out:cheers

See sit and think what is practical, of course i agree according to our system we need to spend little more for girl baby during their wedding compare to boy.

In those olden days they use to have many kids, so they worry. These days we hardly have 1 or 2kids, can't we manage them with our finacial state by proper planning, surely you can dear..

Pregancy is really a gift from god, not all attain it as per their wish. They should have blessing from god to attain that.

Please once when you are in cool mind, do visit this section:

Fertility & Trying to Conceive - IndusLadies

You can see the cries, beg and fedup of many kind hearts...then you will surely know in what way you are blessed.

Again i like to quote one for you. Can you give 100% guarantee for this:

If it was boy he would take care till death.

These days both are one, not that all boys are taking care till end nor girls leave the parents once they get married.

As per my knowledge only girl babies express the emotion,will have softcorner for their parents wherever they live. Ofcourse boy do have, again their way of express and commitment is totally different.

Again said all this, even i like to have boy baby before i get conceive(but i was not that serious if it was girl also,would have been happy only),.I lost of my first girl baby immediately after delivering which is purely doctors side mistake.

By then decided whatever gender not a problem, we need healthy baby, now we are enjoying to the core with our 2yrs old daughter, her smile, acitvites,her love...

You can feel it and understand it only when you get it.

Have a Safe Delivery....Hope tried to waste off the wrong myth and made you to rethink to some extend....I'm happy i did some thing good on this day. Bye.

 

Hi,

I can understand your feeling. I think in someway in your mind you created yourself some principles.

It takes time to comeout of that and take you to other way...but do give a try....generation has been changed...its not like last 2 generation now..

.More.ladies started going to work after and before wedding ,which was not before 2-3 generations, so sure this state will also change for sure...

For sure i can say one, none of the mom will hate her babies....at some point they always have that divine love towards their kid....

All the best.

 

dear lucky you, the problem here is the situation you have ended up in.. your husbands attitude & how you are silnetly suffering. Not all guys are like your husband.. trust me.. only a fraction of guys are so controlling & make life so difficult for wives.. rest do give respect and freedom & love to their wives.

what you should do is make sure your daughter, will not suffer this, even if you are not able to make life better for you..
Educate her, encourange her, love her, give her confidence that she doesnt end up suffering at the hands of a guy like your husband, where she would not have the freedom to love & take care of her parents.

i am a girl & proud of it. i love the independence i have & the emotional bond i share with my parents. and i am free to gift them surprise them as i want..

So instead of feeling sad you will have a girl, be happy & determined that she will not have your situation, but rather a really independant happy woman who will have a great understanding husband & equal freedom to love her parents..

 

To be frank,I have 2 girls and I am very very happy for it.
My girls,don't have to support to me financially ,but I am pretty sure they will be available to me emotionally all the time.

I will make them strong and independent and who will stand on there principles and support the family when needed.

 

dear op,

i will not address you by your user name, because i do not think you are unlucky. in fact you are very fortunate to be blessed with a child. a child is a gift from above, entrusted to you by the one above. how can you even call yourself unlucky. is this your way of expressing your gratitude to god?

forgive me for asking you this question - but how did you get to know the gender of the child? sex determination before delivery is a crime in india and whoever the doctor who has done this for you can get his license revoked - the reason being that some individuals who react you go to undesirable lengths.

firstly, if your mother was not a woman, where would you have been? if your mother had rejected you, where would you have been? if you were not a woman, where would your child - son or daughter have been? why do we worship the mother goddess in our country? we call our daughters "lakshmi" and is this how we react to her entry into our lives or homes?

do you know how many couples would give an arm and a leg to have a child - any child? and when you are blessed to have one, you sit and cry over it? i can only feel very bad for your child.

so what if you have two daughters? who told you daughters have no right to look after their parents, or need the permission of their in-laws to do so? may be your in-laws or husband expect you to do so, but it is up to you to be firm and to do whatever you need to do for your parents. there are many women in this very country who look after their parents. it is more likely that a daughter will look after the parents than a son's wife. the parent-daughter bond is much closer than that between parent-son or parent-dil. there are also more and more daughters in our own country who perform the final rites of their parents. if this the case today, just think how it will be by the time your daughter grows up. there is no field where women have lagged behind. we have so many sterling examples in our own country.

it is up to you to bring up your daughter with lots of love, educate her well, give her a chance to be financially independent and strong enough to stand up for her own rights.

i am sorry if i sound a bit harsh, but i want you to see the truth as it is. instead of being depressed, think postive and be happy, so that you deliver a healthy, happy child. and please never allow your child to feel unwelcome in this world. there are many people who would love to be in your shoes.