I live in the US and my husband does not want us to relocate to India because of a host of reasons which you all are familiar with. Recently my younger brother passed away unexpectedly. I have always wanted to go back to India. This incident has heightened my urgency to do that. I want to be there with my parents and support them as they are not getting younger. My parents are unwilling to come to the US even for short visits. I am torn and broken. What would you do. Is there a solution ?I do not have a GC. We have approved I 140,hubby is working on EAD and my company is sponsoring our GC.
Op, very sorry about your brother. Can you go and stay with your parents for a couple of weeks/months to help assuage the pain? That's what I can suggest for the short-term. I do not know your reasons for staying in the US or moving back to India. If you can elaborate, I am sure other posters will be able to give you valuable suggestions.
Sorry about your brother. Does this help with regard to R2I - http://www.indusladies.com/forums/married-life/75179-i-dont-like-dh-idea-6.html#post920394 i wrote that response ages ago. The troubles of moving back are tremendous. Read through that and see if your DH can relate to some of the things I was very worried about when I moved.
Hi OP So Sorry about your brother.:-( I can relate . I always think of some thing bad happening back in India and how will I cope with things. My dad had severe accident many many years ago till this date I could not get away from the guilt of not being there. I was stuck here for H1B reasons. If something happens, we expect family to accompany us ,help us.. but too bad we cannot think other way. Every day I think of all these things... I move to india in dreams. We both ( my H & me) do not like a lot being here and miss India but we miss OLD india that we left. If we had grown with india , living there it would have been easier. Now I go there for 20 days, I encounter say 10 people ( outside family) for some work,or travel or drivers , so much stress and shouting I have to do. But despite of all the discomfort, low quality service, less safety, noise pollution, I bleed to be there.
