Hello All I read some of the posts here in this thread , this is the best place to open your heart and share your thoughts. Me and my husband are having different opinions in raising kids that is leading to lot of fights and I feel lonely and depressed some times. we been married for 7 years and we have a 4yr old and 20 month old.My husband is very family oriented and takes care of all the issues and loves the kids alot.Not like many other men , he actually does everything to kids ,like giving bath , changing diapers etc.He is very organized too , if i don't keep something clean he will actually rearrange it. The problem is coming because he wants the kids to be very disciplined and some times he behaves very rude with them and especially he gets very upset that i am not teaching them the same way.Just for an instance , yesterday my son being a 20 month old , goes behind my dauther try to hit her with a car(he did that before too , we told him that is a bad behavior)immediately my husband got very angry and hits on his both cheecks , as a mother it was really hard for me to watch, if I say somethig he will raise his voice and starts shouting at me saying I am not teaching him correctly.By nature I am very soft and I just can't be so rude with kids even though they do something wrong,I just want to tell them in a low voice and thinks as they grow they will change. I grow up as a very individual girl , for me my self respect is very important, sometimes i feel lonely and depressed when he dominates like that and starts feeling that i am not a good mother or what?In general I love him so much and used to feel that I am so lucky to have him as my husband.But now a days as the kids are growing we are having so many situations where we are having differences , i just can't bare all that fights with him. Does any one has same situation in their house?