Dh Has Zero Sperm Count

Not gone through same experience, but we didn't have kids for long time and faced so much because of this. and we went through lot of treatments too. Based on that I want to tell this:

Explore all options with doctors/urologist how much % of success rate to have a kid with your H sperm? and what treatment he has to undergo etc.

If with your H sperm, it is not possible, what your H want to do? Is he willing to go for sperm donor option? You also fine with that? do you both think that you can do that. You both have to discuss and decide. I don't think it affects your relation badly, but goes strong if both look at it mature way. If your H doesn't agree with full heart then problem would come. You both want a baby, using the sources available, you are having one and want to make part of your lives and enjoy that joy.

You both agree for that and you have to keep that secret to relatives etc, sharing with parents OK, based on their maturity levels. Also it is good to have anonymous donor to avoid complexity in future.

 

Dear OP,

My hugs to you.Many women do not have a loving and understanding husband and go through a lot of hardships in life.Not all doors are open for everyone.Count your blessing.If you do not want to go for a donor sperm,discuss about adopting a baby.EVen if you decide to go for donor sperm,you and your husband are going to bring up the baby.The kid's personality and character will be influenced by both of you.So proceed whole heartedly.All the best

 

Search in this forum. There was a poster from a few years ago in the same situation. They had a baby through IVF. I don't remember the username though.

 

Looks like your in-laws asking and pressurizing you for kid is the bigger problem than the actual problem.
1. Is it possible for you and your H to move away from joint family set up at this time and continue with your treatments. I think you should tell your H that at this high stressful times you want to be just with him giving strength to each other. And can't bear in joint family for few years,

2. Why can't he talk openly with his parents about the situation and about treatments, without even involving you when he talks, he can say that don't pressurize her, i have some issue, please understand and baby when happens when times comes. why he is silent and making you to go through this pressure.

one of the above options if your H does you can escape from this stress. If you want to do separation after baring this all for next few years, isn't it better for you and H to live together out of joint family now and save yourself from all that stress.

 

First, I am sorry to hear that both of you are dealing with an unexpected disappointment.

Pressure from where? If it is pressure from within your both selves, the longing to have a child in your life, then there will be one way to deal with it.

Pressure from joint family? Please do not make life-altering decisions because of this. It is your life first, next your husband's life, finally both your life together. Decisions such as education, marriage, children, career are life-altering decisions. It is very very difficult to impossible to reverse one's footsteps in these decisions so make sure you make them with a clear head and "your head" - not someone else's head. Whatever advise people give is from their background, their perspective, their times and their situation. I am not outright writing off another person's wisdom - listen to it, absorb what you can, apply where possible, but ultimately the choice in such major decisions must be yours. If it works in your favor, you will feel good about it. If it does not work in your favor - then also you will have the satisfaction of owning that choice and not spending rest of your life cursing or blaming someone else for that choice that was thrusted upon you.

 

Hi sammygirl....how old are you n your husband ? Hows your se_ life ?
There is a cure....last month i went to patanjali baba Ramdev's yoga center....there was 2 couples both having fertility problem....doctor told them you will never have your child. but after doing pranayam they are perfectly cure.
Take care of his diet.

Ask him to do "KAPALBHATI PRANAYAM" it does wonder in our body.
Trust HIM. HE will give our body new energy and new life.