I am very much depressed. we were in Chennai and we around October shifted to hometown for simple reason but due to other reasons stay extended. My spouse stays in his sister house with his parents (parents hav separate home 15kms apart ). due to health issues. Even my dad is having health issue so only we came from Chennai and I stay in my moms place with children. its been 3 months , i was ok to stay but since after discussion this weekend with my spouse i was so depressed. I thought he is staying there in to take care of his parents. yes, they also were corona +ve and with that mild attack so he took them to frequent hospital visits. now they were not ready to do angioplast. They were ready to goto their home. he is having one more brother too but he is not helping like this. i went to new year without invitation as my spouse stays there, they dint treat me/ sons well and i also felt uncomfortable. again they continued hospital visits and i was back to my moms place. my spouse b4 marriage bought one home and loan is over. the rent and the house are managed by my FIL. I asked my spouse to shift the home from chennai to CBE. i also went there and saw, it was without maintenance around 15 years. i asked him why rent is going there and why no maintenance etc. but no use. so in this week i discussed with him and also his relative (distant brother relation) is a civil engineer. he said he wil help to renovate with minimal steps. so discussed and asked inperson also to give overview of renovation. He during that time said , why we need to vacate and why we need to disturb the rent. both my mom and ur mom house are there , we can stay , in that way i can save rent and expenses and all.. in turn it will be a good investment and am planning to buy some cultivation land. I am not sure its good idea, but as soon as i hear, I got pissed off... will a married man count food and shelter cost also. he lavishly spends for all others and including himself. he has no stress for these 3-5 months . i agree that he is in hospital visits. they got corona because they wantedly went in bus multiple trips and in cabs .. etc to their daughter home and fro. No one is caring and including his parents and he also dint care to stay separately. But my concern is lets renovate n stay in cbe own house , the builder said it s of 1 week to 2 weeks to renovate. but he s not even ready to go inperson to see and suggest the changes. my parents are asking , why even for a word he dint ask to come there and stay for 2 days atleast, which made me feel even more worse. I asked simply to him if u need any money let me know if i need to arrange. for that too he said, no, everything is taken care by insurance. am confused in this stage . he works for IT . we even spend below moderate only. pasangaluku sapadu podrathu + house ku kanaku sonnathum , ipa antha own house ku poganuma nu enaku guilty feeling a iruku. He paid the loan , at the same time I work and take care of half of expenses + children school fees. we never used the rent amount but ipo rent poga poguthu nu he is asking another alternate in upstairs for the tenant. i said , i wll give the same rent to ur dad or whatever his dad expects. Also i wil take care of renovation costs as well, in that time his ego raises. tell me how should i deal with it? My idea is anyway this is the right time to switch to hometown - I informed my managers that i will work from cbe, she said i cant confirm but i can help speaking with when situation comes. Also from his project , one person is working from cbe. i cant change school during 9th or 10th. means we can but it wil be risky, if for 8th he switches, it shud b ok. as he stays months without guilt of separation of family , so i feel now how i can manage with job kids all alone in chennai without any support / help.