Hello, I am here with a new issue. After having the first baby for which my ILs came for assisting, we had so many issues in our married life. My DH had male infertility issue and he emotionally blackmailed me that he will die if he cant have kids. I agreed to go through IVF. I totally saw a new character in my husband and couldn't believe that I lived with this person for so many years. Even if I kept all these issues aside, I felt I could have deserved much better postpartum care if I am with my parents in India. I mentioned this to my husband on many occasions too. And he agreed readily that its all my choice as I am the one who has to go through all of it. Now, I conceived again and he is clearly manipulating me by telling the pros of having baby in US. I understand that have 2 kids with different citizenships is complicated. But for me citizenship only comes to picture after they turn 18 isn't it. I can't go through all the hell now thinking about 18years into future. My DH constantly asks me convince him. I am not very good at communicating effectively. Knowing this, he is taking advantage of my situation. Though he is being supportive now, once my ILs or parents come to US, he will relax big time and all his demands crop up. His food, convinience etc takes priority than mine. I dont know if I am able to explain clear enough. I might be selfish. But I don't want to deliver in US. That thought itself is making me stressed out. He has anger issues and wouldn't spare if ILs or parents or kid is there. He just shouts in front of everyone. Thats stopping me from inviting my parents here. Why should they suffer? My mom wants to take care of me as I am her only child and she is not with me in my first pregnancy. I badly want to go home, stay there till the 2nd one turns 1.5yrs. Which is like leaving my husband alone here for 2 years close. Initially he readily agreed to this and said, for the family sometimes we have to do somethings. After the IVF treatment, once I conceived, his total way of talking is changed. He is like.. how can I live alone here for 1 yr(I dont know why he reduced the duration to 1 yr while we agreed for 2 yrs before). I just have a disgusting feeling that I am being used.