1) Everyone will be your friend until something about you triggers their insecurities and vice versa 2) Nothing heals you better than silence. 3) It’s better to have people dislike you by just being yourself than try to fit in.Anyways you will be disliked sooner or later. 4) Emotional detachment is an art to be learnt. 5) True winning is doing exactly what you like to do. 6) Most relationship theories are myths. Society thrives in peer pressure. 7) Calm and soft spoken people are actually deadly. 8) True freedom is the day we just choose to impress ourselves. 9) Self control is the ultimate strength. What are your realizations due to awareness over the years?
It is a thought provoking thread. One thing I have realized is - it is not true that every thing gets sorted out with time. Certain things, certain people remain same, certain situations remain unchanged. What does change is that you learn to accept such things over a period of time. The negative vibes remain there. Only you learn to create a mental wall to block these vibes.
That befits your profile quote copied below: It looks like for the past few weeks you are probably addressing via IL YOUR past friends and mind obsessed with their reactions in meetings and other societal hobnobbing. My response to you is concise: I must say, “ when world laughs at me, I shall laugh at it in turn”.
This thread has got no connection with friends etc I never meant to connect any threads.This thread has to be looked as a separate thread. it’s generally about observations about our life and what others have said to me about their theirs. these are just some realizations I have felt and wanted to share.
100% on point 7. Seen that repeatedly multiple times. it does not fit all as i do not mean as statement, just my experiences. they hurt pretty strongly mentally than physically.
Sometimes ( most times) it’s better to stay silent! Maybe people are not talking from a nasty perspective as I thought before, but what holds very true for them and something I cannot understand. So better say “ok yeah , interesting” and move on. I always said money was not important for me, but it does buy lovely things. I don’t mean expensive fur coats , cars or cruises but real lovely things like independence , freedom and dignity! People never change really! Either you need to lower your expectations or if they don’t bring any joy in your life, time to let it go! When others pouring their problems on you, you don’t have to brain storm for the solutions. Just hear it out without any interruptions and press their hands lightly and say “ I understand”! That’s more than enough in most cases. Don’t procrastinate! Be it laundry , uploading dishwasher or setting up a meeting, just don’t think “ I will do it later “ you are only making it worse for yourself All of the above are just self realizations and a note to myself only There are much more will add later
Another thing I learnt very recently is… It’s actually better to keep your life private.Let people assume we are boring it’s totally okay but being private is a blessing.
Hi I agree. As addendum I add here that friendship with immediate neighbour generally results in disaster bitterness or some kind of bickerings. You go out of yhe way to help them but the moment they get another far useful friend they may forsake you. So with neighbours one cant be too friendly in India metros like Chennai and mumbai. Only very few neighbours are genuine friends mutually helpful rest all keep friendship until their purpose is achieved. Many friends work only for their self aggrandizement which we come to know only with passage of time. A neighbour decades ago in then Bombay now Mumbai discovered me in Chennai nearly after 20 years. He and family were in business of multi tier marketing dealing with magnetic therapy mattress. He and his spouse said that they make good money as distributor and desired that I must avail that huge opportunity. The product is very expensive at Rs 40k one mattress and canvassing for its sale requires only gift of the GAB. I declined to take it and that is the end of our friendship. A quarter later the coimbatore agnetic therapy mattress company man's family was in news for malpractice cheating and arrested and sealed their MML company. The reporter added in the message that hu dress of their distributors lost their retirement savings. God Bless.
