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There is no way to get over it or to come out of it. The fear frustration anger and anxiety these are the things that is required to fight with. If you keep thinking that your words came out with anger will change something then it will never. The situation will get worse everytime. Improve your mental strength by various ways that are suggested here time to time in different threads like meditation and thinking positive etc. Your own mind need to be cured and stop thinking about curing their mind. Just calm down relax and take a deep breath.

 

I think you are very disturbed .. I think you have tolerated too much for long and now your mind is getting out of hand . But it may have disastrous consequences .
So , my suggestion is instead of making a big issue, try to take back control little by little of your own life .Firstly you start visiting your parents first . It is bad to restrict a woman from visiting her own parents and instead be with in-laws who don't love her . So you start disobeying that and if anybody shouts , just calmly tell that "of course I will visit my parents first" , and leave it . Be nice and polite never hurt or insult anyone .Next always reply calmly that your child needs his mother and doctor said to sleep with parents .

If your husband loves and respects you that's what matters in life . In-laws are of different generation and their words may hurt us , it happens to everyone so it's better to not take it too personally . Try to focus on your life .For my MIL I try my best to have compassion for her and understand her view point , and this helps me to focus more on my life than dwelling on petty things .

 

Dear OP
Some ideas i can think of which i also plan for my tour to india
1) don't let your in laws know when you going to india. Stay at your parents place for some duration without letting your in laws know. Give them another date when you ll be in india.
2) Give some lame reasons like your health or if you have kid, your kid's health.
3) If nothing works and you still don't want to land at your in laws place, just be ready mentally to face consequences, and don't just react. If you don't react so many times, they might stop cursing/blaming you after certain point of time.
Don't just keep on thinking about this and lose your peace of mind.
4) If you think situation will go uncontrollable, then better to spend a day or two at in laws and come to parents.

 

@Sangeeta85, first of all, now your strong and brave enough to face them. From your post I can see, you want to end thier game. Do it. Be super smart. Tell you got tickets to only thier place, will come and stay before leaving to US. Stay for 1 week at IL'S place.
Son is not a baby , tell him about your mil fil, don't show them in bad light, tell few things. Let son take decision, even 3 yr olds now can understand how someone treat thier mother.
You will not shiver or breakdown. Practice many times with words you will use them

 

Let your voice shiver hundreds of times... but don't give up

 

What I have learnt with my experience is stay at Inlaws only if your husband is there... we travel together first drop at my mom's house for a day ... take only what i need for stay at Inlaws for sometime with hubby and return with hubby to moms place before he travels back and stay at moms place for few extra days... I would avoid all circumstances to go to inlaws house in hubbys absence ...