Dealing with Teenage bad choices

I think a lot of teens go through that stage. I still remember my teenage days! I don't have a teenager yet but I heard that setting rules within home helps. Like assign some duties to her and she is expected to adhere to it. Not doing that will result in taking away one of her privileges.

 

Have a chat with their school counsellor/ teacher.
Treat the child with respect but make it clear that their choices are their responsibility, and let them face the consequences of their action. The parents and teachers need to meet often to discuss what's going on.

I'd personally keep a tab on the kind of kids the teenager hangs out with; will seek the school counsellor's input on this. Invite the teen's friends over for a game of bowling or a pizza party or even to hang out after school just to get to know them. quire often if they parents are approved by peers, it matters to kids.

That apart, I would suggest they are given responsibilities to share around the house; and are treated with respect. Involvement in sport would help channel the hormonal aggression. Plus mastery will boost confidence and make them comfortable in their own skin.

Having one on one time with each parent - a long walk or something simple like that - would help bonding.

 

misspink, i have two teenagers. a daughter and a son. the daughter officially will move out of the teenage years soon. (OMG, my daughter was 12 when i joined il.time flies..) there have been discussion ranging from lying, laziness, watching **** and we have discussed almost all topics, you can go through these forums, loads of information on how to handle based on many of our experiences, and exposure.
It is part of the phase of feeling grown up and testing limits hang in there..and i would say go through these few threads that i had tried to search and link here.
all the best. the trying years but something that can be made into a wonderful foundation for a good human, strong confident individual and great bonding. you fall, you hurt, you cry, you have hair pulling moments, but being there is all about this relationship of being a teens mom..


http://www.indusladies.com/forums/schoolgoers-and-teens/132017-how-cope-behavioral-problem-pre.html
http://www.indusladies.com/forums/schoolgoers-and-teens/209160-lazy-teens.html
http://www.indusladies.com/forums/schoolgoers-and-teens/211037-i-trust-my-16-year.html
http://www.indusladies.com/forums/schoolgoers-and-teens/178969-we-found-our-sons-laptop.html
http://www.indusladies.com/forums/schoolgoers-and-teens/184735-am-i-wrong.html
http://www.indusladies.com/forums/schoolgoers-and-teens/162982-child-doesnt-like-tell-all.html
http://www.indusladies.com/forums/schoolgoers-and-teens/106918-how-to-handle-teen-attitude.html

 

Besides talking to counslor, become counselor urself for ur child.

Read book like discpline with love and logic (it comes for different age group)


Be a an authoratitive friend of ur child. Means u behave friendly, so that they can share but after all u r a parent and u have an authority. Use it in friendly way.