So here's the thing. I put my parenting queries in a few Facebook groups. I learn a lot from there and almost all the questions get answered. There's one question for which I haven't got proper answer, hence I'm here to ask fellow mommies. My daughter almost 21months is a happy kid with usual toddler tantrums. I'm all fine. But one thing which I can't stop worrying is her social skills. She is very very friendly and goes to everyone. No stranger anxiety as I see in almost all kids her age (and also in older and younger kids). My worry started when she used to smile n laugh n play with any new maid servant whom we appointed. We hired a male cook when she was around 8months n this lil girl used to crawl n go n blabber to him. My husband was always against it and kept telling me that I don't stop her from doing that n used to instruct me to keep her in the bedroom when maid Or Cook came over. It worked for a few days but again it wasn't the best solution. It's not about cook or maid ,she goes to every new neighbour who visits us or whom she sees in lift or play area . The moment someone speaks to her she goes to them. My worry is she going to any stranger who calls her. any body who is a kidnapper or someone else who can harm her - what if she goes to them? She's only 21m for me to make her understand that she should not be going to everyone like that. Still I keep teaching her to not go. I'm sure she doesn't understand but I keep telling. Recently at my sister's son's thread ceremony this one was with two of my cousins the whole time(from 8 am to 5pm). She has met them a couple of times before. Except for having bf , lunch and nap she was with these cousins of mine the whole time playing with them. No matter how much me n husband called she didn't come to us. Wonder why she is doing that. She's with my mom the most of the times at home.But at the ceremony she didn't go to my mom too. This was so worrying. Not that my cousin's would harm her but she not coming to us was so worrying. She had a meltdown when they left from the Mantap. On other hand she never sleeps without me in the night. Here is her routine: We wake up at around 6 30 am and until 9 30 I'm with her doing my morning chores , giving her bath and getting her ready for day care. After I drop her at daycare my mom picks her n puts her for nap in the afternoon. She's a happy toddler who loves to go to day care and almost never cried to go to day care. She stays there for 2.5 hrs. Then mom brings her back,gives her lunch. We have a part time nanny to take care of her after she wakes from nap. But my girl doesn't go to nanny (since my mom is there) . If she sees me she will be with me only. But still we have a nanny who takes her to play area, makes evening snacks and plays with her until around 8pm. Then I log off and spend time with her until we sleep at 10pm . I try to give my undivided attention to her during this time. We have dinner together, play something then we do story time and sleep. I stopped nursing her around 3months back. Yesterday my husband was telling his mom and sisters over video call that she was running around a lot in the mantap and was with my cousins and didn't come to us on calling repeatedly. For this my MIL said if mother gives enough love babies won't go to anyone. This hurt me so much and I saw my sister in laws supporting their mom saying with job A is not able to give the attention the kid wants. I was always targeted/judged for choosing a 2 hr day care for my kid, for keeping a nanny, for choosing to start my career etc etc . Basically every choice I make a get a resistance from his sisters and parents. While I ignore most comments my in laws do I couldn't ignore what she said. I am indeed worried 1) if this is happening for not giving enough attention to my daughter? Even after I started my job I always was there for her nap , feeds and giving solids since it was work from home. But last two months I have trained her to sleep with my mom and ask my mom to feed her lunch. Have a nanny for her park time and evening snacks. But I see no connection at all because my daughter always loved the company of people around and went to everyone even when I was at home and spent all day with her. She's just a social kid who loves others' company. 2) How do I make this lil one understand that it's not safe to go to everyone? 3) Am I not spending enough time with her?? Or not giving enough love. Not sure why MIL would comment that way. But it hurt me.