Dad is having an affair, help!!!

Tricky and Messy situation this! Not sure what is the best course of action...
Well, I think someone has to talk to him to get things clarified.

Make sure you are quite sure of what you are suspecting first. Then go out with your Dad to somewhere you can get privacy and have a 1-1 talk with him. Be clear but STAY CALM during the conversation.

Do not try to have conversation with the "other woman" - that will be the worst thing you can do at this stage. Better to have a 1-1 with your Dad first.

Your Dad may scream at you for having "read his messages". But in this sort of situation - if he is indeed having an affair - then that privacy violation takes a lower priority than what he has done. As I said this is messy, and its hard to avoid all the messiness when you start getting into it.

Leave your Mom out of this for now. Take it one step at a time. If your sis is a stable person, you may want to consult with her. But if she is the fly-off-the-handle types, leave her out for now.

 

double posted

 

Spiderman, Sanjay is that brother, I think.

Sanjay,
As Spiderman says, talk to your dad first. Keep your emotions in control - I know is hard but you have to handle with care. Your mom and sis need not know fo now until you and your dad have a calm talk. Take it like a man to man talk rather father-son.

Find out from him if he is still serious about the relation or he strayed for a moment of weakness. As you both talk you will come to know the next course of actions. It is a tough situation.. I am very sorry to hear.. Hope you get to solve it the better way possible.

 

Hi Sanjay,
Is the other woman someone you/your family knows? Talk with dad first like Mstru and SpiderMan said..calm collective manner. If he doesn't tell you anything, ask the other woman... keep mom and sis out for it until you get some answers.
All the best!
O woman!

 

thanks mst...i corrected my post now.

 

Though I dont have an answer as to what you have to do but definitely you dont go and speak to that lady.

This makes the family environment nasty. Hope you sort it out successfully.

 

Sanjay,

Before you get drastic, is this just some kinda flirting or do you think that there is real physical stuff?

Before you go nuts, read up some stuff about middle age crisis etc.

http://www.infidelityfacts.com/infidelity-statistics.html

Before you decide try some role playing (in your mind) of the following scenarios and it may help you with some guidance for your family situation and the players involved.

• If you were in your dad's shoes how would you want your son to deal with this kinda thing?
• And if you were to do something like this later, how would your dad deal with you.

 

What were you doing fiddling with your dad's mobile phone ( read invasion of privacy) and how are you so sure your dad is having an affair? Do you have any proof other than some text messages?