Dear all, We all know most of us have problems with In-Laws(ILs). This post is for those people who are finding their ILs are too much interfering, and nosy, and they still want to shamelessly come to US for longer periods of time (like 4 to 6 months) even though they know they dont get along with DILs and create problems in their sons married life. I have my own reasons which I dont want to detail here, I am really fed up of them, I cannot tolerate them for more than a month at the max, I have to lock my private personal stuff, I need to be restrictive in wearing clothes, my home personal matters are live commentary to all people around including extended family... I really need some good suggestions and solutions so that ILs frequency to US is none to less..I have some people around whose ILs come only for a month and happily go away, how do they do that? I cant ask them directly because they are not so close.... My personal situation is: 1. BIL family in New York, they just arrived a month back from India. US is very new to them. 2. We stay here near NC, since 12 yrs, they have been here 3 times, all the times created major major fights between me and DH and it was literally hell. Now new thing is we have kids now, so they may not get as bored as they used to earlier..and also we bought house couple of years back so its like they feel we are living a lavish lifestyle although we have major financial issues with me not working...they dont understand that.. 3. now that BIL is here, they may visit more frequently and I dread it. I want to live my life in privacy from them and in peace.. I have suggested DH to call only when BIL is ready (contributing to their visits financially and they need to spend half time there, more happy if they spend more time there)..we have bought a house here, I dont want them to be too comfortable here that they feel spending more time here (sorry please dont think I am devil, but I have suffered enough in the past)..... -How often your ILs visit you guys and how long they stay here? - How is it for people who have siblings staying nearby/east cost-west coast? -Any good tried and tested tips and tricks to gently let them know that they should not be visiting us for longer time? Thanks!