As the subject says, I have been thinking about completely cutting off a person I was once close to. A brief background about myself. I am a very social person and have a lot of friends. My inner circle is very small though. I have very few close friends and I don't let too many people into my tight group. Some of them don't even know each other. Over the years, I have got immense support from my close friends. Some people have surprised me by being there for me when I didn't expect them. Some whom I expected more from have not met my expectations but regardless I maintain a relationship with them. Some people have instantly connected with me and moved into my inner circle. In the last 5/6 years, I have made my outer group also smaller. During the course of the last several years, I understood that one of the person's in my inner circle was being rather mean and competitive and comparative. In my mind, because we shared a close friendship so many years ago, I kept making excuses for her behaviors - she has a hard married life, her SIL abuses her, her husband is a typical MCP(even comments on other women's skirt lengths for example), she is lonely but is portraying as being busy for making herself feel better, she sounds like a bully but her self esteem is very low etc. A few years ago, someone mentioned this Narcissism on IL. I watched the videos and read the articles. She is a classic example of that. She has to put my child down for her to feel better about her kid. She has to put me down to feel better about herself. She made the kids hate each other. She is constantly wanting to one up everyone around her - who has the better friends, whose husband is better employed, whose child is in a premier college program. I did pull back eventually because I realized there is no changing her. Honestly, it was draining me. We do have common friends so there is information sharing and unavoidable meetings. Even while walking outside sometimes I bump into her and she has found out something about me or DH and has to question me(taking into custody and questioning is what I say). I feel drained. I have told the person who is sharing info to please not do so. She stalks my DD's social media via her children's accounts and talks to me about my daughter's social life in college. She stalks her on linked in and makes it a point to question me endlessly about her internships or other achievements. She stalks my DH via common friends and comments on his career improvements. I am exhausted trying to be polite. I have also been harsh and told her "I don't know" or "No idea" in a very stern voice and walked away. We did have a falling out also a while ago but somehow we stayed in each other's radar because of our other friends. She knows I'm pissed and avoiding her but the relentless questioning when we inadvertently bump into each other hasn't stopped. How do I make it STOP? I want to completely cease all contact at this point. How do I avoid all contact even in social settings and during walks? How do I do it? The MIL is good to me and always talks to me when I see her outside. The hubbies are friends too but mine has also minimized contact in a effort to make this stop.