the traditional ideas about marriage are changing fast. We too have to change with time and accept it. As we can see so many people are going for inter cultural, inter racial, inter faith marriages, there is certainly nothing to criticize them ideologically if one is not being orthodox. Families too are increasingly accepting such alliances. But, on the practical side as i have seen many examples in many cases where dils and pils from different cultural backgrounds seem to have more difficulty in adjusting. I remember reading a post here about dil having problem because of veg/non veg food where a staunchly non veg girl marries a staunchly veg single boy who does not touch non-veg and moves in a house with even more staunch parents who cannot even bear to talk about non-veg. And problem starts immediately. Also saw guys and girls from different provinces marrying and then having difficulty accepting each-others' culture themselves, forget about that of families involved. saw many people having difficulty with difference in festivals, dressing sense, food habit etc. I have seen many cross-cultural couples to mingle well too, in some cases better than some same culture couple i know though comparison will be a folly as every couple has its own unique situation. Anyway, at times i simply wonder is it only orthodoxy or anything more than that. i fail to come to a conclusion. I just want to know your opinion, do you think there is really something in the old belief that says marriages should be within the same/compatible cultures?? what about older girl marrying younger boys? I have seen a few such couples too who seem to be living quite happily. Is there any scientific reason behind this (anything about any biological/mediacal process or anything?) along with the orthodox male domination or is it pure sense of domination only? I really want to know. Talking about such things with people never seems to get you anywhere as people see it as an ego issue on the basis of their own life and reply as per their stubborn thoughts. One can easily understand that they are not thinking logically. they would harshly critisize either this part or that part without much thought as it seems. so posted this idea here with the hope of getting neutral logical thoughts about it. thank you.