don't fake it ?!! Some six years ago, I went to a funeral of a distant relative (wealthy man who had married twice, had kids from both wives...and was 70+ when expired), whose relatives had hired professional wailers who were darn good. The man's actual relatives could never go up to that kind of sorrow and lament, because the man's death had given them, each of them, a huge inheritance, in cash, gold, and tangible properties. However, they were not allowed to be overtly happy for a respectable period of time. Those who had come to "comfort the bereaved" were treated to punch and snacks of the highest quality, and ended up discussing how much our children are behaving so much against deep rooted traditions.