Thanks ladies for this forum. I looked for online counseling and some churches that can help me with pastoral help and then I reached out to you guys. I am Harini and "happily" married for 12 years. Happily is in quotes because my husband and I love each other madly and we only have fights because of his side of the family and sometimes silly things. One evening in the last week was very rough because my MIL had a big fight with me. I am thankful to my husband because he did not take anyone's side and asked each of us to explain our problems. He corrected me if I was wrong and corrected his mom if she was wrong. I have been having issues with my mil since the last 12 years. I am not digging into what happened in the last 12 years but will tell you what happened that evening last week. I was standing out with my BIL who I took care of for the last 3 years and his wife. My MIL suddenly comes out and shouts at me asking if I have a problem with her. She apparently asked me a question an hour ago and I did not answer to her satisfaction. I spoke something that I think is normal but for her is not ok. She kept yelling at me in front of them. I told this to my husband and he acted as a mediator and tried to help the situation. He asked us to openly discuss our problems and solve it and put an end. It was about 2 hours of heated argument. she yelled at me and I did the same. She explained me her problem but I dont know if I wanted to clear out the heat, I did not explain my problem clearly. But anyways after all that, I smiled and she smiled and we both hugged. We spoke good to each other and I promised that I will be a sweet daughter to her. I am happy with the happy ending. But I feel insulted that this happened before my brother in law who I took care of for 3 years and his wife. His wife also has a lot of issues with my MIL but she didnt say a word. I feel like I lost the respect in my family. How can I regain my respect? How can I make my inlaws family respect me? I am ready to forget what all happened in the past and shower love on them.