Continuing Job and Successful career under extreme Stress/tension!!!!

swaran · Nov 12, 2011

Hello Ladies,

When we working ladies encounter extreme stress and tension (what not) both at home and office and even more when we have kids,one thought that usually hits us immediately would be..."shall i leave the job instead of suffering like this"?...but then few ladies just snap off that idea from their mind in matter of minutes but then few ladies would go ahead with that plan because they might find their stress/tension/pressure growing bigger and worse as time passes...

but there are few ladies,bold ladies whom i have seen in personal life as well as indusladies(when i read few posts across various threads) who inspite of their horrible stress/tension filled life,take a bold step to continue their career and even progress as well.....they too might have encountered a state where the people around ask/force them to stop working but they have taken a steady path towards their career and succeeded both inlife and career and completely shut the mouth of those people who recommended/forced them to stay at home.... :thumbsup

Please share your experiences if you are that lady or atleast have seen or heard of such ladies in your life....tell us how bold you/they were in balancing their life/kids/career etc etc....

It would be a great encouraging factor for all of us here ...In case anyones(including me) read such successful stories when we ourselves fall in such very difficult position,it could be a great boosting factor for all of us here

Here i would say my mom was/is such a lady...she came out of her family and married the man of her choice...just like the usual ILs,SILs issues,she too had loads and loads of problems arising each and every day because of them even after she got two kids...people even made so many comments because she went to work...but she was such a bold lady that not even once she went back to her siblings/parents seeking help...nothing stopped her..she remained deaf to all the comments she received and raised her kids and brought the family from nothing to everything..me and my sis (when we were young)have even felt that she doesnt spend enough time with us and felt she is only carreer oriented and likes only office and not family...she heard all these complaints with a smile but dint stop working...she never takes leave but never leaves any function/rituals that happens in the family......now not just my family but my ILs side too say that "no mother have we seen like her"...not only in the family..but even in her office,people demand that they require my mother's management to complete an activity...she has created such a big name both in her family as well as in her carreer...
good education,good food and clothes(there was worst financial crisis when me and my sis were young-never did we knew the exact situation she and my dad were going throught until recently),did everything that is required for all her siblings/MIL and SILs and for their kids too,took care of everything for her MIL inspite of all the bad mouthing and things done by her MIL,bought a house after the financial crisis happened in the family,allowed me and supportd me to marry the man of my choice and still doing caring things for me,DH,DD what not but never had she cribbed or complained or boasted that she did all these things even when she was working..thats the greatest thing ever...she is a wonderful lady!!!!!!!
mom like her,i have never seen till now!!!!!

Please do share yours...love to hear such stories

meerajesh59 · Nov 12, 2011

Hi Swaran
Me too living with such a women in my life. My mom. She got her govt job in later 20's. She has a elder sister and younger brother. She took care of her sister's 3 deliveries. She took care of her mom as her younger brother is irresponsible. She got married in 34. Her conditions for marriage is , She will never quit her job and she will take care of her mother. At that time, women working and placing conditions for marriage is quite rare. My dad worked in a private company. She supported him economically and morally. Her nature of job is travelling to industries and treating the patients among employees. Because of travelling she had lot of miscarriages. Finally she delivered me after 5 years of her marriage. Now she is affected with arthritis because of the miscarriages and continuous travelling.
Out of all family problems created by her inlaws, she successfly managed to save money. She gave me the MS degree behind my name. She managed to buy a house before her retirement. She took care of my cousins, her inlaws and her mom. She never expeced any help from any relatives. Ofcourse my relatives are always jealous of her and bad mouth about her. She never took all those nonsense. She saved money and jewels for my marriage. She got retired before my marriage. She arranged my marriage decently.
Now she is enjoying her later sixties with my dad in our hometown, in the house she bought. Here I have to mention about my dad too. He is very supportive in all her decisions. He never interfere in her freedom. They both brought me up like an angel. They never interfered in my freedom too. I am lucky to have such person as my mum. I want to take care of my parents now. But she said that they will join us when they are sick. I respect their privacy. She is bold and beautiful.

According to me, my mom is my Miss universe. I love you mom.

swaran · Nov 12, 2011

meena,
thats an absolutely fantastic awesome story...i am actually lost ,not able to find the wonderful words to praise such a human being...fantastic...and thanks for your first feedback

priyasaki · Nov 14, 2011

Thanks swaran for starting such an wonderful thread....
I am very happy to write abt my mom here....

She was working in a textile company before her marriage itself, it was a permanent job...
She got married when she was in her later teens...

The first work talked to her by my dad was "You should be the mom to my family, we have to face many struggles".. She accepted it by nodding her head....

The situation was her MIL(My grandma) was a histeria patient, she can't recognise even the family memnbers...
She was isolated in a room...

The family consists of MIL,FIL, 4 BIL and 1 SIL
Her first BIL was a FITS patient... Weekly twice he will fall sick, the whole family has to take care of him...
The next target was SIL's marriage...

She continued her job because of financial constraints... She has to cook for 10 members in the family(breakfast and lunch) within 6.30am and reach her workspot by 7am...
She returns by 4pm and has to prepare tea for 60members(who were working in a company owned by her BIL's next to the house)...
I was born when she reached 20yrs... Since her FIL was there to take care of me, she continued her job...
Then came the marriages from her IL's side and also mother's side...
She has to organize everything, She and my dad has successfully conducted nearly 10 marriages in 5 yrs...

Apart from all these she was the eldest DIL for the entire family of her FIL also...
So she has to do all the rituals for nearly 4 families ( 10 SIL and 8 BIL)...
She has never complained abt anything till date...

Now (just before 2 yrs) she resigned her job because of health issues....
She got veriscose veins in her legs, since she din't take proper rest post delivery...
There was a time were i thought my mom is running after job ,relation.. and not taking care of me...
but now i realized she has done all those for my peaceful future...

I am admiring you all these days mom and i have to lead my life like you balancing career and family...

swaran · Nov 14, 2011

Dear Akila...
that was really a wonderful story of a bold woman...i felt so energised after reading them and also understood how lady should stand inspite of all the struggles before/after marriage...
work is one important thing which not only gives money but also the bold/independant nature...

spuppala · Nov 14, 2011

Hi Swaran and meerarajesh,

thats very nice to hear the success stories of your mothers...They are really inspiring..
Woman has such magical power to impress all!!Kuos to such great mothers!

Thanks for sharing about their success!

swaran · Nov 14, 2011

thanks suppala for stepping in with your lovely feedback...

swaran · Nov 18, 2011

thanks kiranavari and sabari for liking this thread...expecting some interesting stories from your side as well

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