Confused and Clueless!! Need a third person point of view...

Perfect answer!! :thumbsup

Men are conditioned to be the bread winners of the family. Not being able to support their families financially makes them lose respect for themselves in their own eyes.

And taking care of the household work in order to send the wife to work, further increases their pain and agony.

Dear OP, these are testing times. You need to stand by him and make him realise his worth. Boost his morale

You already mentioned he is a very good man at heart.

All the anger, frustration and ego is just because of his work status.

Make him feel loved. When he lashes out at you next time, don't say anything. Just wait for him to cool down, then go and give him a hug.

Just persevere at the moment dear, I am sure great times are waiting for you ahead.

 

Very true!!

 

Hey I do not intend to make him sound like a monster! It is but natural that people get frustrated when they have a lot of time in their hands! It happens to women too...women who quit jobs and move to another country as dependents end up feeling low and frustrated...this has nothing to do with one's gender or planet
But i do feel sorry for op because she seems to be in a tough situation but is handling it in the best way she can!

 

Dear Testmypatience,

In state education would cost at least approximately $ 450 X 30 Credits = $ 13,500 plus books. If he chooses education outside of the state, it would be very expensive.

I am not sure how many years of employment you have finished. If you are getting fresh H1 in the next few months, aren't you close to 3 years of employment? You could approach your employer to make an exception for Green card explaining unemployed status of your husband. They might be lenient. More over, once you file adjustment of status for the family, he might get a right to work in the US immediately and you don't have to wait until he obtains green card.

Applying Green card directly means you approaching an immigration attorney on your own and paying the necessary fee for filing adjustment of status. It may cost approximately $ 5,000 per person.

I am just providing all these estimates for you to review and they may not be accurate.

I wish you very best in your endeavor to lead a peaceful life. It is very important that your daughter is unaffected by her dad's depression.

Viswa