Hi friends, I have been married for the past 3 months. My hubby is basically a very good person by heart but believes whatever his mom says is right. My MIL is also a good person and nice to me but a bit possesive abt her son. Because of her natural insecurity like every MIL she keeps intruding b/w us. My hubby and me used to have small conflicts but we also made up and never prolonged it for more that a day, REcently my MIL has started worrying too much abt our conflicts. She has expressed her fears to my husband and becuase of this my hubby has started loosing faith in our relation. My hubby now feels irritated in event of an misunderstanding and feels that it better to remain silent. On the other hand I told him that discussion is better than remaining silent and letting unhappiness build up inside. When I asked him how he is able to fight with his mom and forget it and y he is not able to do the same with me he said that he has been with his mom for 25 years. Hence he has the confidence that they can patch up. He also said that I have been with him for only 3 months and hence he does not have that confidence in our relation. He even says that he is afraid our marriage can fail if we fight. I was hurt by this statement because I love him very much and he is not able to realize it. In fact I have never even slept a single night by fighting with him and almost every time I used to say sorry and patch up irrespective of whose mistake it is. I don’t know how to make him understand this. Since we stay with in laws, my in laws are able to sense in event of a misunderstanding between us since my hubby does not talk to anyone at that time. Also it is difficult to hide from our in laws abt whatever happens between us because my MIL keeps intruding. Everyone at home now feels that I am the source of the problem even though the mistake would have been with my husband I am not able to make him realize that having conflicts is natural in a relation and that only because of his mothers involvement in our issue , it is taken to greater extent. I desperately want to ask him to tell his mom not in involve in this but I am afraid to do so because he will feel I am talking bad abt his mom. This will make him more angry and our relation will get more complicated. I want to reinforce in him a confidence abt our relation. Pls help me how I can do so. Also pls let me know if my attitude regarding conflicts is wrong….