I have been thinking for awhile now- after I posted a heartfelt experience of how I changed from tomboyish chic to SAHM!! And the advice I gave was for the girl to compromise/ tips on how to handle the situation. Although my post looked happy, rosy, successful SAHM! I can't believe I have changed so much... coz when I walk down the memory lane. I see myself being so different, so bold, so assertive in what I want, nobody took me for granted. I am not saying I am being taken for granted now or not being assertive enough. I am saying that I didn't compromise when I was single... But after marriage Compromising is my second nature. My mother who recently saw me being a SAHM was shocked (coz she didn’t instill many things in our family) how I have embraced and been successfully managing this role. The one thing she was very surprised is how much dependant my DH is on me emotionally/ how efficiently the house runs. Yes, there are certain aspects that I haven’t changed and certain things my DH is still trying to instill in me. Things that I have adopted into my personality and changed. I am sure my DH has also compromised certain things for this relationship to work. I started to question myself- Is a good marriage just about--COMPROMISE To what extent one compromises in a marriage ? or to what extent should one compromise in a marriage? ( including IL's baggage) What should one expect their partners to compromise about and what is asking them way too much? Is there a standard that gets validated ? Do these compromises in long term come across as sacrifices ? Or Not able to be accepted as who you are by your partner? How have you as a male/ female in the relationship have compromised without feeling that you are giving too much into your partner or marriage? What do Men compromise about in a marriage? Note - The purpose of this thread is purely to create a meaningful, constructive discussion.