Competitive in laws

why get upset for small things

 

remember to make that a healthy competition

 

Radhai is the master of brevity. When will I see a long post from you ?

Well OP, if I were in your friend's place, I would not keep too many things for display for my in-laws to copy if they were that competitive. So, ask your friend to hide new stuff she buys. If she is not comfortable with the idea of hiding stuff, ask her to live like a minimalist for the next few years - that would save her money and irk her competitors.

If I had such competitive in-laws, for once I would go live in a chawl and then challenge them to copy me!

 

Ask her to invite them voluntarily and show them around and ask is this nice, do you like it, etc. Also let her say when you do it these are the improvements that you can try and better this...

Let her feel happy that they copy her.

 

Let her say this to her husband, 'see my taste is so good that even ur mom and dad want to copy it, kadar karo meri' (value me more) :thumbsup

 

OMG I always thought all IL were competitive and didn't give it another thought. My grandparents were competitive, my parents compete and my IL too. I thought it was normal.
Well all for the best I suppose I thought all this was normal and turned a deaf ear to all comments. I suggest you do that too OP.
There are some lucky ones out there who don't have competitive in laws.

 

I bought a diamond ring. As soon as my mom go to know this she bought 2 diamond rings. Next year I bought a pair of diamond earrings and my mom bought 3 pairs.I bought a Honda City for myself so my dad got a costlier than me Honda Mobilio even if they are only 2. This time I went home she gave me a list of things to buy as present for her of Rs. 5000 and bought a Rs.300 kurta for me. Well my diamond buying mom can give only a gift of Rs.300 to her daughter. I was so ashamed that I did not tell my inlaws as they had given me Rs. 5000 to buy a gift for myself.
Tell this to your friend maybe she will be happy that atleast she got competitive inlaws and not competitive parents.

 

It must be very hurting for you, why don't you openly tell your parents that their behaviour is very hurting and unexpected ? Why do they want to compete with you ? Is there some hidden insecurity ? Please try to find out.