Co-sis coming soon-want to give her some feedback.Should i?

Be quiet.....you cannot change people.On your part....be nice to her and you don't take sides. She will learn...or maybe she will actually win there hearts over. Either way let her do what she wants to.And no matter what...never tell your true feeling about the rest of the family members to her.It can back fire.If she wants to talk...give her a patient hearing .

 

never ever do that mistake.... never ever... im telling u from personal experience... any friendship with inlaws is sure to back fire... never ever... never ever do that cardinal sin.. no matter whatever the situation.. if she is trying so hard to project herself to be so sweet and enquiring all family matters even before marriage, she might be smarter than u think she is... zip ur mouth, honey, for ur own good.

 

She could just be really into the whole Indian Serial dramas of the "ideal bahu" that gets married and fixes all the bad relationships that are happening in the inlaws home and family. Looks good on TV but not in real life
Unfortunately she will have to learn on her own. We all at some point think we can "fix" some problem or another of the inlaws - in TV it works- In real life- it backfires and we look bad!
She will have to learn on her own but if after marriage you see her heading for a BIG disaster- maybe gently mention that she should always clear her decision with her Hubby or MIL. Never say it is your opinion or your take on it - because that little phrase will backfire too

 

+1 to that!!

IMO, she seems too sweet to be true One of my SIL's DIL started off pretty much the same way - all gush and glitter...for almost a year everyone in the family was swooning over how "sweet" she was...and how concerned over issues in the family.
It's been about 2 years now, and Madam has sneaked battles between her husband and his brother; between her MIL and her SIL; between my two SILs -all by airing out various imaginary/ real grievances between various parties!!
Of course, your co-sis might be genuinely interested in clearing up the family rubbish, but it doesn't hurt to be on your guard, does it?

 

Frankly I think this person is too presumptuous- thinking she can just come and fix everything. Plus I think she is fishing for information from you that could possible be used against you.

 

Stay out of it honey. She has adarsh bahu syndrome. Don't worry marriage will set it all right.

 

Keep quiet. Watch the tamasha as it unfolds!

 

yes please keep quiet. let her learn on her own. lessons learnt harder way will be remembered longer. if you still feel like helping her then you can discuss this with your BIL as he is close to you, mention that so and so aunt/cousin were speaking like this he will convey the message.

 

you don't know her. she is NOT your best friend. at least for now. Please curb this rush of affection or whatever it is that makes you want to "protect" the poor little sweet thing. be nice,be polite, be helpful and maintain distance till she gets married into the family and then bonding can happen gradually. personally, i would find it gag inducing if someone has her level of "sweetness" and presumptions about her role as a fevicol in the in laws family. sit back and watch life unfold. plenty of time to build relationships.