Children in tears

Parvathi... thanks for discovering this amazing thread!!!:thumbsup

Dear Cheeniya
Its so true of any grandparent.... they can never see their grandchild in any form of agony... especially grandfathers...
I had a really strict aunt and uncle who never spared the rod on their sons but when their grandchildren would be scolded they would be whimpering with pain!!!
Even my Father-in law would go for a walk when I would sit with my son for homework!!!
you certainly have a soft kind heart as you get affected by the so- called injustice metted out by the "cruel" parents on their kids...
incident about the poor child was sad.. must be so tough on the mother to be unable to give food to her hungry child... such is the sad state of affairs in our country....:hide:
pleasure to read the post
K

 

Dear Sri Uncle,

I used to keep checking your profile to see if you had posted any posts lately and there you go, my hopes aren't dashed I guess I am running out of words to heap any more praise on your writing .....your thought provoking words laced with humour, it gives me immense satisfaction of having read a wonderful post everytime I read your ramblings as you modestly put it )

Nowadays when my mother advises me to hold my temper or be patient with my kids, I try to stop myself from rolling my eyes at her........this is someone whose fists I used to be frightened of as a child As I had recently commented on my post "Mothers, are they???", it did not make her any less of a mother in my eyes. It takes all kinds of mothers - they are definitely a breed one would find harder to decipher.

But yeah, everybody's heart goes out to a crying child........but perhaps noone really gives a second look at the remorseful mother who cries her heart out for lashing out at her child given her helplessness of the situation or the chain of events that led her to vent out her anger at her child.

Rightnow my 5 yr old after having moved to a new daycare after our recent move seems to have developed an attitude phaps from peer behaviour......it is so hard for both my husband and I to make him understand that what he is doing is not welcome in our house. Kids can test even the most patient of all saints and believe me, my husband can truly be canonized as one atleast where tempers are concerned but even he is being pushed over the edge lately. Sigh, the joys of parenting........

 

Dear cheeniya sir,

That, I too cannot bear to see a child in tears, I realized when, I scrolled down to read the end and find out what was it that was being inflicted upon kriti. Only then could I go back and enjoy the whole post.

But then being a mother is TOTALLY different. Like all mothers, I am with your daughter in this case as I too have been treated as the accused one when my daughter used to bawl at her first school. The members of my dear family had turned into my enemies and seriously believed that she could go straight to first standard at 6 years. What age and time are they living, I wondered?

Actually the term "Grand parents" is quite inappropriate, if you ask me. They do not do any "parenting" only "pampering.":biglaugh

But, EVERY child MUST have them to know the true joys of childhood.

 

Dea rSri,

What u said move me and everyone here.I have quarters here outside my home, Govt quarters, and sometimes someone beats a child, and i hear it crying, i feel the same as u.A child's crying can melt the hardest of teh hearts.

And how could u attend that meeting, i can understand, after seeing all this.For a child to be hungry and whipped to bed, for there is no more food, what does one say Sri to that.Absolutely appalling.

And yr grandaughter going to school, and u crying eh ! You should have take her to school, dear freind, i remember when my brother who is now 46, was admitted to school, in my school, mom came to leave him, i was in class 7 or 8, and he howled after mom went away, and i was amused at this fellow brother of mine, and they had a hard time at school to restrain him.

Took my mom a month , to come to school till he mellowed down.HAHA

Sri, who is reviving these old blogs of yours, and giving u more homework these days ? Well on yr behalf i want to thank them for bringing these wonderful masterpeices in front of us.

Regards

kamal

 

Cheeniya sir i loved reading your writing on cannot see children suffering, you should have been the mother, then you would have toughed up,as children are so intelligent---and their ways are unbelievable ---we were so innocent comparatively, 24 hrs feeding all their whim and fancies the ladies toughen up a lot--not all but mostly, my DH FEEL LIKE YOU, even one shout or tap he will shout "such tender children, the mind will be affected, --this and that,----Tell him look after them for one full day---your patience will reduce---the angelic look will disappear--and you will be normal.
Grandchildren are different, they are our love, and pet,--we treat them with specialty and patience because no other work to do, we spoil them to the frustration of their parents,--we care less, as long as we hug and cajole them to our ability.
Cheeniya dont get me wrong--even i am a very soft hearted person ---even street childen --i teach, comb their hair, even bathe them, give food ,--not money--i will buy the books--dress or---whatever needed then---if you look at them closely, not all are our care and pity---but most are.