I belong to the 'separated' status for many years now. Reasons were incompatibility and indifference towards each other for a long time. Not yet taken a divorce for the sake of daughter. Two years ago, I entered into a relationship with a divorcee. Initally, he was not ready to commit, but later insisted that i take a divorce immediately, so that we can proceed to marriage. I was not able to take it immediately as the request was turned down for 'status' reasons, so mutual divorce was impossible. So I was could not commit immediately. When i told this, he misunderstood that i wanted to be 'still married', he parted and his job took him out of this city too. He stopped communicating with me for sometime. But after a while, we started to keep in touch again, he also informed me that he had moved back to ex-wife and son. I wished him good luck and good life. I kept my communication with him mimimum, though i could not cut it completely, as we were very good friends as well. He asked me about how my life is, it told him that i am in the same status again. Recently, he called me and told that his marriage is bad again and he is undergoing lot of tensions. I heard his story, but was helpless in doing anything, except for listening without offering any suggestion. We spoke to each other for a month or two. We did not meet as he is in another city. Now, again he made a serious proposal, and asked me whether we can get married. Though i did not turn down his request, i told him that my divorce procedure will take a long time as i have to fight a case. And asked him whether he was willing to wait. Meanwhile i also asked whether he is sure that he wants to break again with his Ex. He told yes, and said that he had paid more alimony again. But he is a hurry to remarry. He also added that, if i turn down the proposal this time, he will never revert back. I loved him a lot, but now after these incidents, just dont understand what is in his mind. What i understand is ... he feels so lonely without a relationship. So immediately after parting with me, he went back to his Ex. and regretting now. For me, i liked him a lot, he is the only relationship i had since i got separated 7 years back, so am also finding it difficult to move on. Our relationship lasted for one year and i cherish all the memories. First time, our miscommunication ended in break up, then we became friends again. He is making a proposal again, but again he is in a hurry. My question is, whether he will remain stable with me once we marry? Or he still has feelings for his Ex, and he may shunt to her again? When i asked him, what made him go back to his Ex., his answer was it was because of his 'son' and 'humanity' (as she was undergoing a serious surgical procedure). Since i am not in a position to commit yet, i have not asked any more questions to him. But he insists that i answer 'yes' or 'no'. I love him very much, no doubt, but i neither want to take him for granted and hold him, not let the love blind me. Can i trust him and proceed taking all the risks? Or forget and move on with this life? Please give your comments.