Can ex husband horoscope effect divorced wife? If yes how to get over.

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  1. ivlakshmi

    ivlakshmi Platinum IL'ite

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    Hi,
    When two people get married both of them have astro effect of the other.
    example: Say if the wife horoscope is bad but still she is happy as husbands horoscope is good.
    I had bad fate ever since I got married and till now even after divorce nothing good is turning up. Does ex husbands astrology effect me? If yes how to get over it.
     
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    Hope some learned persons will reply to your query

    God bless you.. regards
     
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    Hi OP,

    Your destiny and your life is in your hands. Be positive and keep moving in life .

    All the best !
     
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  4. SGBV

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    Your life is in your hands only. If your ex husband's horoscope is that bad, then it has to affect his present's wife's life and not yours.

    You have problems in your life because you had chosen a wrong person as your marital partner, that too in India. From your posts, I learnt that you prefer to be married. Just like me and most of the other women here. But it is not that easy to be married, that too after a divorce, that too in India. Given our social, cultural and other customs, it is very difficult to remain unmarried, that too after a divorce.

    Enough of stress to face after a divorce, and that is what you are currently facing. It is a very practical and common issue for anyone who sail the same boat as you.

    Do not complain on something like astrology, that too on someone's astrology for your problems. When we are in a confused state, we tend believe any kind of soothing replies by avoiding the practical side of the story. Your weakened mind should not fall into any other cheating astrologer in the name of doing remedy for your problems. That's why this warning.
     
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    I didn't quite get this .. That too in India ??? People who chose right partners also face problems SGBV . She is just finding solutions to her problems through a medium . Lets give OP her time to grieve over the loss .Bow
     
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    Oh.. is that so???
    That too in India means a lot. Let me explain it in detail

    Any marriage can face problems regardless of the characters or behaviors of the partners. I totally agree that the people those chose the right partners also face problems in their marriage, but the logic is the one who chose the wrong partner will face more problems than the one who chose the right one. Exceptions can not be taken as examples Maddy.

    Walking out from a marriage is not a big deal in the western countries. When a woman chose to divorce or separate from her husband, then it is ACCEPTED in their worlds as her own DECISION; hence no one would unwantedly poke their nose into her business afterwards. That's their social structure, and the custom. Leave alone their family and friends... No one would dare to comment bad on the woman just because she is divorced.
    Not only in the western world, but also in other parts of the world too.

    But our parts of the world is entirely different from them. We worship marriage and family unlike others. We are made to accept a monogamous relationship and a very committed one in the name of marriage. That's why many couple stick with their marriages regardless of various marital problems.
    But it is just not possible for everyone.

    If the problems are minor, then adjustment and acceptance work. But what if the problems are major. If a woman in India chose to divorce, then it should be understood that she has done every possible attempt to save her marriage, but in vain. Again exceptions are there, and they can not be taken as examples here.

    Unfortunately, our society is not ready to accept these women wholeheartedly as survivors of abusive marriages, instead they enjoy re-victimizing them for the very reason that they chose to rebel against their abusive marriages.
    The most unfortunate thing is that their own family itself stand against them, not because they do not love them.. but because they do not know how to diplomatically get healed from the social wound that came from this divorce.

    Kindly go through the threads in life without spouse section for more info.. Where the most strongest women who chose to fight back against abusive marriages, feel extremely down and upset for the social treatment, specially by their own nagging moms and relatives after the divorce. A very few alone receive supports from all the ends, and succeed with re-marriage too. Again, there are exceptions... The ones who are in the top social level can not be taken as the examples of average India or Sri Lanka.

    The OPs issues are not uncommon for a divorcee in India. Many other souls those sail in the same boat as OP face the same issues following their divorce. Therefore, the OP doesn't have to think unwanted matters like ex-husband's astrology and stuff for her sad destiny of today. It is natural to have these kinds of thoughts when you are in trouble, and undergoing emotional issues in life. I've been there, so I know it very well. I understand OP the most.

    Giving her fake hopes like "don't worry... Divorces are common in India, and no one would dare to look you down here, or you would get a new life in no time etc..etc.etc... is not a wise idea, although it can sooth her disturbed mind for sometimes.

    In this 3 years of divorced life, I am sure the OP herself knows what is a divorce is... Now all what she needs is that, every successful woman, who managed to re-marry and life happy after her divorce must have gone through this tough time at least once in her life.

    She needs courage to face this. She should not waste anymore time with astrologers and others with her problems, instead it is better to move on in life by accepting the fact.

    When you have cancer, it is EXPECTED that your body will have to feel pain. Just because someone got survived in cancer without pain, doesn't mean the pain in your body is abnormal. So, all what you need is to understand the fact that you have cancer, and the pain is normal... and the majority those underwent a cancer had pains in their bodies... Now how to get rid of this. Instead of thinking why someone didnt have pain, and why only me?? That won't cure the cancer?

    Now replace the word cancer to divorce!!!!
     
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  7. j80nilesh

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    Hello,

    I am 32 married male. I am very firm believer of Astrology and its good and bad effects on us.

    Whether one believe it or not astrology affects us. So it is up to us whether to look at it as a science and try to find a way, or just ignore it and still get affected by it anyway.

    And in relations like marriage and family it does affect. ever heard of kal-sarp yoga? in which fathers bad luck passed onto son and then they suffer. Or one being manglik affects the luck of another as husband wife and lead to unhappy or destroyable marriage? Or ever been suprised by seeing the bad ever girl in college/ society happily settled with a nice, good, caring and fatty hubby in married life?

    Whatever we see and believe on the surface...its all astrology deep down, which is making things happen through us without we even noticing.

    In marriage, male and female come closer at the ut most level.

    Certain aspect of birth chart planetary placement can affect marriage and relationship. Mostly having Mars and Venus not placed at right angle during your birth time and birth place.

    But also note that bad planetary effects can be cancelled with our co-operation and understanding of situation.

    I am no astrologer but I had issues with my mars and venus too but luckily it got cancelled out. I had very bad and lonely first 30 years of my life. I never had a single relationship with opposite sex before my marriage, but things changes just after my 30th birthday. I meet a nice women and got married to her.

    She had love affair before our marriage and she was physically involved with her BF, but I still accepted her as my wife.

    Later my astrologer told me that only with her I can have successful marriage and happy and healthy married and family life. Somehow planets in her birth chart and her bad actions in the past have neutralized bad planets in my birth chart and of my past action.

    Again I am no astrologer and can't answer your question correctly but just told you of my experience. Now I am very happy with my wife and with my married life and so is she.

    Also my aim here is not to discourage you from anything or keep your hopes down. Only thing I can tell is that by keeping positive attitude in life and keep trying sincerely and honestly and intelligently will get you want you want in life.

    Also if possible try and consult a good astrologer. 90% astrologer around are not good and mostly they don't understand a bit about this science and mostly keep telling people what they have heard from someone or from someplace.

    All the best.
     
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    Hi j80nilesh,
    Welcome onboard to IL and hope you have a pleasant time in IL. I too am a firm believer in Astrology and also when it involves matchmaking. As you have mentioned, 90% (I would put it as more than 90%) astrologers are not good (due to many factors) which causes some arranged marriages to fail despite matchmaking attempts. Indeed, as you have mentioned, it is important to give importance of balancing the good and bad planets/doshas in both charts.
     
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