Calling husband by name?

The only purpose of the name is for others to call. What is the big deal in wife calling husband by name? There is nothing wrong.

Viswa

 

It may vary depends on the region/community where you belong? I call DH 'mama' and I don't call him by his name, directly. I do refer him to my friends by his name. To my family, I refer his as 'mama' or xxxx appa.

 

the no big deal calling their H's by name as we are in modern and more civilized century. i dont agree either when elders say not to call Hs by name because its irrespectful to him.
but im interested and very much agree on krishnama's reply on this thread saying ur spouse is someone who is very special to u. and by calling him/her by their name it wont make them feel special because u call them like very one does.

 

I used to call him like appu,pappu ,ajju and sometimes by name.

 

I even call him names.

 

Confession is good for the soul. ;-)

 

I call my husband by his name. Obviously my in laws side no one was thrilled about it. it works for us and kept it that way.

what irritates me the most is not the expectation surrounding wife not calling her husband by name but even wife's parents...relatives should not call her husband by name !!!! WT*!!!! i mean my dad who is way older than my husband should not call him by name. My dad after marriage immediately started giving my husband respect..his explanation was that that is how society works..and that he will not change.

i told my dad...ok then..if he continues to call my husband that way ...i will talk to my in laws about addressing me with respect..or else i will not respond...this may not be how society works but this is how i work.:mrgreen::mrgreen:

hearing this and fearing that i would do something drastic..he started calling my husband by name and no vango , pongo (aap) etc...

for this reason, i like english language ...

 

^ fg, u knew ur dh will back you, and hence u did all that 'threat' to ur dad. Try telling that to your inlaws that they should call you 'aap (vaango)' - if your dh wont back you (as many cases exist in indusladies) - there would have been a major showdown. You are lucky to have great dh and inlaws. God bless

 

Here is the different complaint... My hubby never calls me by my name. He always calls me kanna, chellam and other konjifying names. I do the same but when i'm angry and i will call by his name. But my chweet laddu never calls my name even he is angry at me.

One of my friends (10yrs older than me) , when she attended small get together in my house was discussing with others friends how my hubby was ( shamelessly ) calling me "kanna " in public . When i heard about that i told her yo don't want to know what we are calling each other in our BR. Stupid adimais... What is really sad is some ladies don't even understand what self respect is and/ or what love is. Pity on them ( like punita's sis-in-law).

 

Ragini25

yes my DH is supportive but not my inlaws..they are uber conservative.
my mom suffered a lot due to in law problems..i have seen taht growing up..
when it came to my marriage and relationship with IL.. i expect equality and wanted tos et right expectations.

they did ask me to call my husband not by name when at relatives place....i didnt even bother to respond but did what i felt comfortable doing. everyone gave me a look and sure spoke things...but i care the least.

i developed thick skin..
once again i have seen my mom go through SH** when she was a young...and all teh double stadnard..those taught me a lesson to develop a thick skin and do what you believe in doing as long as it is fair.

it surely helps that my DH is very supportive..but hrere is only so much he can say or do. My mom used to expect my father to stand up for her..but he couldnt..that made me realize that you need to stand for yourself and not even expect your husband, parents or anybody. right from the start..i did that...