Bossy, Feisty, Sassy!

@Rihana 's thread about Grandmothers prompted me to start this thread. I guess i was a little too late to contribute there so here I am now wanting to share about my grandmoms of few generations past.

Bossy & Feisty K:
Grandma K was my father's paternal grandma. So you guessed it right, she was long gone by the time i was born. But never mind that since all the people my village were so eager to tell me about her that it feels like i know her personally. I was named after her actually. As a child i always disliked that name but now at 36 years after having seen life's ups and downs, my respect and admiration for my grandma K has grown leaps and bounds and oh boy! i am so glad that I was named after her. A small piece of legacy that continues through me. I just wish I had her guts and courage too!
K was a hard worker all her life. She was the person who oversaw the huge lands we had back then and maintaining them, getting the work done with the help, managing the household tasks by allocating them to others...you name it, every single thing was precisely planned to the last dot and nothing in the world could alter the schedule once it was planned. She was gutsy and bossy. People in general were a little scared to argue with her since she would hit you down with point after point in a logical manner. You could never get away with your shenanigans. My grandfather never could. My grandfather (also heard from the tales) was a wastrel & a womanizer.
For that only reason, my grandma K never spoke to him all her life even on her death bed. Though my grandpa apparently tried talking but she never inched a bit from her stance for all he did and never forgave him.
Even to this day, in our house in the village, we still have her picture. I have no clue of how my grandpa looks but K, i know.

Sassy M:
M is my dad's mom. A terror to live with. But putting all that aside, if I look at her, all i can see is a courageous woman who loved to enjoy her life to the fullest in the best possible way known to her. She never backed down from a fight, made people tremble at sight - I know this firsthand that people my people my village used to avoid going by the main road just to avoid facing her and used to take a longer route to reach the main village.
But for all that, M was always encouraging mom to work though my dad was against my mom working. M was very fat so she couldn't travel much but where ever and whenever she could, she always took us grandchildren along with her she loved splurging her meagre savings on funky jewelry for us. You heard it right. We gorged on bajjis, bondas, bought whatever took our fancy, sometimes, at a time, we have watched 3 movies in a theatre back to back. M was all for enjoying life.

I cant help but imagine, if K and M were there today and with the opportunities that we have, i am sure they would have become leaders in whatever profession they would have chosen. Nevertheless, they still ruled the place in the way they knew. Even at the worst circumstances, they knew how to make the best out of the life they had. They never gave in and never gave up hope. This is what i want my daughter to learn and understand.

That life is not easy and never works the way we want it to. But that with the right mindset, we can conquer it and live on our terms. That its ok to be bossy, ok to be feisty, its ok to wish for the whole universe and that its ok to go after it too!!

P.S. I was reading an article which said you should never call a woman bossy or feisty or sassy since it gives a negative tone to her achievements. Well, I have intentionally used those words to show that I would be proud to call myself all that and more!