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Discussion in 'Friends & Neighbours' started by minip, Dec 24, 2014.

  1. minip

    minip New IL'ite

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    Hi,
    my neighbours in my flat are asking for things from me .like idiyappam maker,veggies etc.
    now one neighbours is asking for my scooty for a ride.
    how much comfortable are you guys in giving?
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  2. deepideepi

    deepideepi Silver IL'ite

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    I m not comfortable about giving my stuffs to others. I myself don't ask anybody for anything but it is ok if somebody have genuine problem..like shops are far to bring things and they need it urgently or they have some emergency to borrow scooter. Otherwise if somebody is really using you is not a good thing..
     
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    minip New IL'ite

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    Thanks deepi

    I don't want to lie to them that I don't have it.but if I tell I can't give , I am scared that they will stop talking to me .
    One lady is asking my daughters pavadai because she don't want to buy it for one day function .
    i am confused about what to tell any suggestions ?
     
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    Alyssum Platinum IL'ite

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    Hi minip,

    I don't like to borrow/give things to anyone. (especially clothes)
    I only give the things emergency(there is no way need to help) situation only.

    You just say - usually; I don’t like to exchange the dress/ I don’t want to give one’s used dress.
    This type of answer says on spot with smiling face.
     
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    @OP....
    Not at all comfortable, either to give or to take..
    Its time you draw a line.. tell them "no scooty"...
    telling a firm NO (without any justifications, just plain & simple NO) once or twice will send the message loud and clear.
     

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