Borrowing Stuff From Neighbours

shravs3 · Sep 16, 2022

sanjuruby3 said: ↑

what about our wood with poking heels.
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Maybe they are imagining that their floors are made out of gold

sociallifein30s · Sep 16, 2022

Thyagarajan said: ↑

12 feet ladder was often needed in maintenance of my single storied independent house. To save hiring charges of about ₹100 per day, i bought one such ladder and that came within knowledge of entire neighbourhood. Possessing a ladder soon became headache for me as every day some one needed and taken it for granted to have it free from me without minding inconvenience to my family members.

There were instances where i had to go and collect it back at my expense in order to lend it to another friend in neighbour hood. It was exasperating.

My spouse suggested to put a printout notice written in bold letters “12 Feet Ladder available on rent per day ₹100 and deposit ₹600. Surprisingly this helped not that in making some money but total absence of demand from neighbourhood.

An electrician of the area needed the ladder to attend to repairs at the top of the street light pole. He used to often take mine in the past. After seeing the post of hiring charges, he ceased asking me. Previously he used my free ladder to carry out repairs in some other buildings and happily collecting ladder hire charges from parties who engaged him for carrying out repairs in their building.

When as family, we stayed in rented house as sub-tenant, another sub tenant used to often borrow coffee powder sugar milk from other sub tenants. My mom once told her when she came for two ladles of coffee powder, bring two laddles of sugar to “me“ and then only i would give 2 ladle powder. She borrowed sugar from elsewhere and took powder from my mom.

The tendency or temptation to borrow is sometimes comparable to that of kleptomaniac. They get a kind of excitement, thrill or and feel triumphant when they get articles/ groceries from neighbour friends.

Sometimes one borrows to prevent borrowers approaching him or her. A lady put a notice “today no credit tomorrow borrow” at the entrance to avoid this menace from sub tenants in the building.
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getting an excitement or thrill when they borrow things .. seems about right. It is just one of these things that makes us weary and even the people who sincerely need things also might not come to us.
Few bad people spoil it for everyone.

sanjuruby3 · Sep 21, 2022

I liked this post of people sharing or venting out about "such" neighbors. In india people are stubborn, they do not care if others do not want to lend stuff or they hurting sentiments. but here it is different.
We have neighbour in india who never gives but always asks or mostly asks. She has lot of wealth but also stinging on small small things.
Asking for lock/keys..and not giving back till 6 months. When asking to return, oh i had already given back..
then coffee, sugar, conditioner (can u believe conditioner) because her indian DIL visited from outside country and likes to use conditioner so she borrowed from neighbors wow... DIL wants to drink coffee so she wants 2 spoons coffee so parents gave her full sealed new bottle, and she use bit and return back half bottle... Consideration to return new bottle..no
And ladder story ... whole neighborhood borrowed and never returned and infact one ladder was lost in the way. and with one ladder at my parents roof, thieves came and used it to sneak into some other neighbors house ( rooftops are connecting in india right,)

Then I do not expect such behavior in US. Irony is - such people are very social. and have lot of friends. People like me crib, and come to IL to vent out and avoid, rather than being strong enough to say no in the beginning itself.

Now once i have become familiar with nature, i might say no ,but feel like got exploited a lot.
So I guess, specially people who migrated to US, had some struggles, its are practical. They socialize for same.

They just see people are some item and see what usage can be made out of them.. They might treat them candy in the beginning. like If she has ladder, i can borrow that, If she can take care of kids wow..
If she has van or truck, I can use that
We all do that but there is limit.