hi, every posts related to In-laws forum will have problem with how to get out from In-laws or how to through out In-laws. but my problem is different. i have to through out my BIL family from matters of my Family which is mixed along with In-laws. after one big abusement by In-laws with direction of co-sis, after having painful pregnancy days...i got some relief now with help of my baby smiles. i am not fully convinced with husband's explanation, but waiting for situation to give punch back to co-sis & as well as to in-laws. at present in-laws are staying with us with reason of helping to me during critical days of babies work after delivery. ok. let them. it is their minimum responsibility because they got full fledged service from me in past. hear their help means, just managing made & cook by ordering works & playing with baby during my bath time & food time. that's it. no more than it. whole day watching TV, reading news paper, sleepin & enjoying their walking activities so on... again my headache started. as per my plan, i want to keep in-laws with me permanently to manage things(maid & cook cum care taker in future) in home. see hear i am not hurting in-laws at any case. they are having very peace full & enjoying their last stage of life in my home. they are not so much bad & tricky like other in laws of this forum. so i want them as my family members. just i am maintaining a liberal relationship with them as per ILites suggestions. we lost good relationship with BIL & co-sis because of co-sis rude nature. i knew in india we are having MILs who makes their DIL to be cry very often. but my co-sis will make my MIL to be cry very often. like that she behaves. but my BIL is two headed character. one side he will show love on his parents through phones & talks when they are in my home. he will say their kids are starving for grandparents( my in-laws) & want to spend with them so on... he will give phone to his kids & asked them to call back their grand parents in phone. so my MIL & FIL will melt with words by little kids. other side he didn't control his wife while she making his mother to be cry. he will support his wife during that situation. he didn't care even though his wife disrespecting his parents & make them to do over work like feeding to kids, taking & dropping to school & managing other house hold works so on...(when ever my MIL comes from their house she lost her weight by 5 kg. when ever she is with us she will gain at least 3 kg weight. that much co-sis will use MIL for their work). he will escape when ever he need to attend hospital needs ( my FIL is diabetic patient. he will join in hospital at least once for a year. ) like hospital expenses & travel to relative functions cum gifts so on... ok now. they are with us at present. dasara festival is coming. again my BIL is playing same game like talking in sweet way with parents & making childrens to welcome them so on...he invites them in festival holidays to secure kids. (see hear even though we passed for several weekends, having just 40 min journey from my house, he doesn't invite them in past. but now they need security guards to kids. so he is playing. hear co-sis doesn't invite these people & doesn't have single talk with PIL from 5 months onward. still she maintained same proud behaviour. but these people are falling into BIL play & leaving us who are respecting them & providing No-work environment). if these people goes again into their house, same scenes will repeat that is torcher by co-sis & over work to them. hear my DH is feeling sad inside for his parents position & will run every time to hospital when ever PIL needs raises. again if they are patients, i has to care them because i am house wife(i took break in my career for my child.) at present & co-sis is working woman. how i can stop In-laws from BIL playing? see in-laws are bit innocent. they will forget or forgive past happenings done by BIL & co-sis when ever BIL & kids talking in sweet way with them. i too have kid. but my DH is not supporting me. he will give preference to his parents decisions even it hurts his soul. but PIL are moving as per BIL play. how i can save my family hear from his play?