A gift given from your own choice is as you describe a "free gift", but it is more like extortion when parents are being forced to give particular gift that is even outside the budget. The "expectation" is WRONG. Having said that, your H has come up with the best possible solution to the whole mess. This saves your parents the trouble & all of you the stress. This is not the time to "stand up" to your IL's as your parents want, infact they should really not interfere how you & H manage issues among your family. So just sit back & dont worry about what everyone is saying. It is high time you let H handle issues & you take rest.